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Kama Sutra: Sexual Aids & Dildos… WHAT?

Kama Sutra

Lovers in ancient times had a responsibility one to another for sexual satisfaction, and lovemaking. In one of the world’s oldest sexual manuals the Kama Sutra, (“Kama” meaning love and desire, and “Sutra” meaning threading) it is said that lovemaking is a sacred duty between a man and a woman. It was taught within the natures of love, and a deep part of the culture, and as a way of life. Unlike what we are taught in today’s society. We are conditioned to feel shame, guilt and insecurity because of our natural sexual progression and sexual desire.

SensualFoodieChaiTeaSpices-1024x622During the 3rd century there was no such thing as an under orgasmic woman. A husband who was unable to satisfy his lover or his wife was to make every effort to remedy the situation. For a man’s inability to satisfy his wife was not part of the culture, and he must make every provision necessary that would either obtain his erection or encourage his wife’s sexual pleasure. Sages, and/or medicine men and women would prepare elixirs and aphrodisiacs with foods, herbs, and spice mixtures. Some consisted of goats milk, fennel, licorice, pumpkin seeds, cinnamon, almonds, honey, and ghee to strengthen the unfortunate man’s man muscle, and stimulate his sexual desire. If these elixirs weren’t bringing about the desired sexual results in a timely manner he was to remedy the sexually unfortunate situation with foreplay, oral sex or an artificial penis. Yes, you heard it right, a DILDO! He was to skillfully use an artificial penis to give sexual pleasure to his wife. This verse gives instruction to an artificial penis to be used to bring women to orgasmic delight and sexual satisfaction.

Gold Vibrator 2“The man who is utterly unable to achieve an erection should pleasure his wife/lover with a phallus crafted from materials like gold, silver, copper, iron, ivory or horn. The artificial phallus should be shaped to your natural proportions. It will be more arousing for the lady if the outside is studded with a profusion of large, smooth nodules” ( Kama Sutra: Part 7, Chapter 1, Sutras 4–8).

Ooooh, it sounds like these studs and nodules was meant for more vaginal stimulation and arousal upon entry and during penetration. Oh my! Who knew? Here we thought we were sexually advanced in the art of sexual novelties and stimulation, and ancient lovers created methods , means and artifacts to keep a woman happy and sexually satisfied in ancient times!

Black IntimacyFor those you who are sexually frustrated because of your belief that using sexual aids is prohibited. Give yourself permission to experience sexual aids, sexual pleasure, and it’s wonderful release with sexual innovation, and intervention. Don’t cheat yourself, treat yourself with a wonderful dong, dildo, and/or vibrator that can make your love life increase in sexual happiness, and orgasmic pleasure. Men love your woman enough to move pass your ego and let her become sexually satisfied until your beautiful man muscle is putting in work at optimal performance. Remember, a happy wife means a happy life!

When creating that intimate rendezvous with your lover Honey Luv has all of your boudoir sexcessories.  Visit our website at  Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store” or contact us at 337.944.9131 Like us on Facebook  and follow us on Twitter @TheHoneyDiva. For your sensual soul listen to our radio show on Tuesday evenings at 9 pm CST on HoneySoul Radio on Blog Talk Radio.  Remember to “Live in the sensual and LOVE in the Delicious.”

The Honey Diva

Know Thyself: To My Own Self Be True

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I’ve had women come to me and ask, “Aren’t you lonely because you’re not in a relationship?” It puzzles me why people would feel because I’m alone, that I’m lonely. Believe me, I’m far from it. I have relationships on every level with men who are fortifying and stimulating without the partnership, the marriage, or the drama. Many women think because I’m “The Honey Diva” , a sexual empowerment coach, and love connoisseur that assist women on how to create and increase their sexual pleasure that I must have a man; better yet that I must be with a man to solidify, validate and justify my sexual teachings of female pleasure and empowerment. But, truth be told I’m so good at loving me, all of me, loving me up and down, inside and out in every way that I can right now, that I’m the only one that can do it this good. I’m in love with the exploration of ME. I learned a while ago that the average relationship isn’t for me. It’s not always an easy task to meet a man who is secure enough within himself to love, and have a relationship with me, especially in my line of work. It takes a man who knows his power, and potential and is self aware in his masculinity, as well as his femininity to understand my passion and purpose. Some may be able to tolerate it, but only for a while before he demands I change.

Some men find my sexuality, freedom, empowerment, and my voice very sexy, and supportive to their image and their ego’s however I’ve been told by a few that I’m too intense, and too sophisticated. If I was seeking validation that would have made me feel inadequate. But, my self worth won’t allow it. However, every woman loves the acceptance of a man. His sacred masculine energy brings us balance and supports our feminine nature, and our roles as women. We do depend on them for this support and encouragement.

It’s my passion to assist women in recognizing and developing their self worth, and being more than enough, and loving ourselves holistically; mind, body and soul, and it’s the very thing that some of my Sista’s use against me. Some women suspect because I’m not married, or in a committed relationship I’m not worthy to teach about the sexual arts, or how to enhance your relationship. However, the first thing that enhances any love relationship is self love. You have to have some to give some, and to get some in return.  My work is to assist women in enhancing self love, sexual pleasure and to identify, awaken and restore your personal power, sexual magnetism, and to recognize your pussy potential.  I’ve experienced intimate conversations with some very beautiful, prestigious, scholarly men who speak highly of the feminine energy and it’s Universal principle, tantra and sexual healing.  As free, and charming as some of these men are the cultural and social view of how men are conditioned to perceive women as sexual objects, versus sexual beings, and inferior to masculine energy is still very pervasive within their psyche, beliefs, values and characteristics. 

Out of frustration I’ve asked myself, “Why does my being alone, and not in a committed relationship, or in a marriage constitutes that I’m lonely, and what does that belief say about us as women when we think that way of one another? I’m supposed to be desperate because I don’t choose to be in a relationship that doesn’t nourish and fortify my essence, or my soul, just for the sake of saying I’m not alone, and “I have a man?”

That’s some old Betty Wright type shit! “A piece of man is better than no man at all.” No disrespect to “Betty Wright” or the Blues. We can learn a lot from the Blues. 

All that is superficial, and on the surface. It’s societies way of dictating to women that we are not normal if we aren’t in a committed relationship. I have to ask myself, “How committed is it if I’m not living and loving to my FULLEST feminine potential with a masculine partner that doesn’t inspire this elevation?” That means I’m no longer true to myself. I’ve come to the conclusion that I may not be the marrying type, at least not in the ways and the laws of this land.

I’ve discovered that most marriages start out in love, and then become about possession, obligation, and the ownership of the person, including their thoughts, actions and deeds. I don’t desire to have a man that I’m loving organically and holistically with my mind, body and soul as my mere possession, and vice versa. I desire something that transcends gravity and elevates beyond the 3rd dimension. I desire vulnerability, integrity, movement, sexual intensity, frequency, progression, elevation, expansion, spirituality, prosperity and surrender. Most people aren’t working on that level of manifesting LOVE, performance and companionship. I am self aware, not to be confused with being self absorbed. I know and recognize that I AM feminine energy personified, in physical form. I am fertile, creative, attractive and ever abundant. I am POWERFUL and I am the most magnetic energy on the planet and in the Universe. Why would I settle for anything less than who I am?

I LOVE men. Oooh, I love my Brotha’s. They are sexy, beautiful, smart, funny, loving, strong, protective, and that masculine swagger is oh, so fine! I love my natural ability to influence, build, entice, feed and draw them to me. That makes him ever so sexy and even more beautiful. However, in sharing myself with him I won’t reduce myself nor my desire of fulfillment, or lower my voice, nor will I cool off my pussy. My pussy is HOT, juicy, soft, wet, supple and ravenous and her dexterity needs and wants what it wants! I am the whole package, and I’m working on my issues. I’m constantly improving. So, yes I deserve the same and more. My dear Sista you do too!

Take your time of solitude to work on loving you, and becoming fully self aware, working through your issues of past hurts, and releasing old relationship wounds. Yes, ladies this means self pleasure – masturbate. Know what it is you desire physically, emotionally, spiritually and sexually. Romance your DAMN self! This is the only way you are going to get acquainted with you. If you look at yourself as lonely because you don’t have a mate that’s a sign of desperation, and men who prey on lonely women can smell it from a mile away. As you grow in your self awareness, and begin romancing and having a love affair with yourself your standards will increase, and the drama will cease. You will begin to attract a different quality of men. Men who want to provide, and protect you. Men who will profess their love to you and for you.

When we connect I will know him because I will transform into a new level of me, with him. I will be the yin to his yang, the fire to his ice, his inspiration to his thought, his Bonnie to his Clyde, the vision to his provision. I will be all encompassing WOMAN, and through this compliment and sacred balance I will be a better, more loving, and passionate feminine sexual being, discovering more of me in this extension of love. Yes, I’m sophisticated, intense, soft, bold, voluptuous, intelligent, knowledgeable, loving, sensual, compassionate and sharp. However, I am far from being alone especially when I know exactly what it is I deserve. Now, chew on that for a minute and tell me how it taste. “Know Thyself!”  To your own self  BE true.

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When creating that intimate rendezvous for self pleasure Honey Luv has all of your self  love sexcessories. Visit our website at  Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store” or contact us at 337.944.9131 Like us on Facebook  and follow us on Twitter @TheHoneyDiva. For your sensual soul listen to our radio show on Tuesday evenings at 9 pm CST on HoneySoul Radio on Blog Talk Radio.  Regardless to relationship status always, “Live in the sensual and LOVE in the Delicious.”

The Honey Diva

How Guilt Affects Your Womb Health

By:  Thema Azize Serwa ~ Womb Wellness Practitioner

Did you know that an underlying mental cause of many female health problems is rejection of self, sexuality, and feelings of guilt and shame? Louise Hay mentions some of these things in her glossary Heal Your Body A-Z. What is it about yourself that makes you so unhappy that when its time to take better care of yourself and free yourself from your past, you hesitate? Don’t you know how beautiful, intelligent, and powerful you are? Don’t you know that a few bad decisions is what allowed you to learn how to make the right ones? Don’t you realize that those fibroids, cysts, tumors, cancers, painful menses, and infertility are deeeeeeep rooted piled up manifestations of self-neglect? Don’t you know that you are not supposed to be a martyr and self-sacrifice your well being for the sake of everyone else, the kids, the mate, the parents, etc.? I want you to know you are supposed to stand in the Truth and in your Power. The Truth is that you are able to heal yourself through loving yourself more and accepting all of you including the areas where you can grow. You are Powerful enough to mentally shift your womb crisis RIGHT NOW by acknowledging who you really are and that you are powerful enough to heal yourself! Take a look in the mirror today and face yourself. Look deep down inside and speak the Truth about you to yourself. What do you see? Who do you see? What will it take for you to love you more? This is a critical part of your healing process. Don’t resist the purge! Free yourself! Love yourself into wellness! Peace and love!

Thema Azize Serwa is a Womb Sauna Practitioner-Mind Empowerment Coach-Business Consultant  and Founder of The Womb Sauna a Ancient Steam Herbal Medicine for Women. Contact her at 301-740-4465 and you can find The Womb Sauna on Facebook and follow them on Twitter @TheWombSauna.    

When creating that intimate rendezvous with that sexy someone Honey Luv has all of your boudoir sexcessories. Visit our website at Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store” or contact us at 337-944.9131. Like us on Facebook  and follow us on Twitter @TheHoneyDiva. For your sensual soul listen to HoneySoul Radio every Tuesday evening on Blog Talk Radio. Live in the sensual and love in the delicious.

 


SEX & PREGNANCY: A Beautiful Rendezvous

There are many myths surrounding sex and pregnancy. However, sex during pregnancy can actually be most enjoyable. For some women they become very orgasmic for the first time or multi-orgasmic because of the lack of birth control. This eliminates the fear or possibility of getting pregnant because one already is…Go figure. Despite medical advancements and religious miracles aside all pregnancy starts with a sex act. Your sexual activity during pregnancy will depend on these key factors:

  • You and your partners beliefs about sex
  • Emotional state during your pregnancy
  • Any physical limitations during your pregnancy

 

If you and your partner are good to go on all levels then please do. Pregnancy is a great time of bonding for you and your lover, and sex is such an added bonus. Besides most men love it because of the increase in vaginal lubrication. The warm wetness  is such a turn on for men.

At some point during pregnancy women may feel large and uncomfortable. However, men generally find the pregnant body very erotic and desirable.  If you are feeling unattractive because of your body changes talk about your attitudes towards your body and sexuality. Remember, not to beat yourself up over what you cannot control.  Many times during the first and third trimester women feel less sexual because of hormonal and body changes. Communicate these feelings of what makes you feel good and what doesn’t. Discuss with your partner what is going on and what he can do to help you be sexual.

Creativity should be your keyword during pregnancy. Do whatever works. There are many sex positions that are more comfortable as your body changes and you expand. Here are some suggestions:

  • Ride Him -Woman on top
  • Spooning -Man behind woman
  • Doggy Style -Hands and Knees
  • Side Laying – with your knee pulled up
  • Oral sex -great head

 

Also,  more cuddling, relaxing baths, romantic dinners, massages, mutual masturbation, whatever you and your partner agree upon and discuss is exactly what you need to do. These conversations and creative sexual will lead to a more happy and fulfilling sex life and make two very happy parents.

If you want to learn more on this topic check out “Your Orgasmic Pregnancy: Little Sex Secrets Every Hot Mama Should Know” by Danielle Cavallucci & Yvonne K. Fulbright Ph.D or Nina Hartley’s Guide to Great Sex During Pregnancy (DVD).

For all of your boudoir sexcessories visit our website at Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store” Like us on Facebook  and follow us on Twitter @TheHoneyDiva. For your sensual soul listen to HoneySoul Radio every Tuesday evening on Blog Talk Radio. Live in the sensual and love in the delicious.