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Kama Sutra: Sexual Aids & Dildos… WHAT?

Kama Sutra

Lovers in ancient times had a responsibility one to another for sexual satisfaction, and lovemaking. In one of the world’s oldest sexual manuals the Kama Sutra, (“Kama” meaning love and desire, and “Sutra” meaning threading) it is said that lovemaking is a sacred duty between a man and a woman. It was taught within the natures of love, and a deep part of the culture, and as a way of life. Unlike what we are taught in today’s society. We are conditioned to feel shame, guilt and insecurity because of our natural sexual progression and sexual desire.

SensualFoodieChaiTeaSpices-1024x622During the 3rd century there was no such thing as an under orgasmic woman. A husband who was unable to satisfy his lover or his wife was to make every effort to remedy the situation. For a man’s inability to satisfy his wife was not part of the culture, and he must make every provision necessary that would either obtain his erection or encourage his wife’s sexual pleasure. Sages, and/or medicine men and women would prepare elixirs and aphrodisiacs with foods, herbs, and spice mixtures. Some consisted of goats milk, fennel, licorice, pumpkin seeds, cinnamon, almonds, honey, and ghee to strengthen the unfortunate man’s man muscle, and stimulate his sexual desire. If these elixirs weren’t bringing about the desired sexual results in a timely manner he was to remedy the sexually unfortunate situation with foreplay, oral sex or an artificial penis. Yes, you heard it right, a DILDO! He was to skillfully use an artificial penis to give sexual pleasure to his wife. This verse gives instruction to an artificial penis to be used to bring women to orgasmic delight and sexual satisfaction.

Gold Vibrator 2“The man who is utterly unable to achieve an erection should pleasure his wife/lover with a phallus crafted from materials like gold, silver, copper, iron, ivory or horn. The artificial phallus should be shaped to your natural proportions. It will be more arousing for the lady if the outside is studded with a profusion of large, smooth nodules” ( Kama Sutra: Part 7, Chapter 1, Sutras 4–8).

Ooooh, it sounds like these studs and nodules was meant for more vaginal stimulation and arousal upon entry and during penetration. Oh my! Who knew? Here we thought we were sexually advanced in the art of sexual novelties and stimulation, and ancient lovers created methods , means and artifacts to keep a woman happy and sexually satisfied in ancient times!

Black IntimacyFor those you who are sexually frustrated because of your belief that using sexual aids is prohibited. Give yourself permission to experience sexual aids, sexual pleasure, and it’s wonderful release with sexual innovation, and intervention. Don’t cheat yourself, treat yourself with a wonderful dong, dildo, and/or vibrator that can make your love life increase in sexual happiness, and orgasmic pleasure. Men love your woman enough to move pass your ego and let her become sexually satisfied until your beautiful man muscle is putting in work at optimal performance. Remember, a happy wife means a happy life!

When creating that intimate rendezvous with your lover Honey Luv has all of your boudoir sexcessories.  Visit our website at  Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store” or contact us at 337.944.9131 Like us on Facebook  and follow us on Twitter @TheHoneyDiva. For your sensual soul listen to our radio show on Tuesday evenings at 9 pm CST on HoneySoul Radio on Blog Talk Radio.  Remember to “Live in the sensual and LOVE in the Delicious.”

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How Guilt Affects Your Womb Health

By:  Thema Azize Serwa ~ Womb Wellness Practitioner

Did you know that an underlying mental cause of many female health problems is rejection of self, sexuality, and feelings of guilt and shame? Louise Hay mentions some of these things in her glossary Heal Your Body A-Z. What is it about yourself that makes you so unhappy that when its time to take better care of yourself and free yourself from your past, you hesitate? Don’t you know how beautiful, intelligent, and powerful you are? Don’t you know that a few bad decisions is what allowed you to learn how to make the right ones? Don’t you realize that those fibroids, cysts, tumors, cancers, painful menses, and infertility are deeeeeeep rooted piled up manifestations of self-neglect? Don’t you know that you are not supposed to be a martyr and self-sacrifice your well being for the sake of everyone else, the kids, the mate, the parents, etc.? I want you to know you are supposed to stand in the Truth and in your Power. The Truth is that you are able to heal yourself through loving yourself more and accepting all of you including the areas where you can grow. You are Powerful enough to mentally shift your womb crisis RIGHT NOW by acknowledging who you really are and that you are powerful enough to heal yourself! Take a look in the mirror today and face yourself. Look deep down inside and speak the Truth about you to yourself. What do you see? Who do you see? What will it take for you to love you more? This is a critical part of your healing process. Don’t resist the purge! Free yourself! Love yourself into wellness! Peace and love!

Thema Azize Serwa is a Womb Sauna Practitioner-Mind Empowerment Coach-Business Consultant  and Founder of The Womb Sauna a Ancient Steam Herbal Medicine for Women. Contact her at 301-740-4465 and you can find The Womb Sauna on Facebook and follow them on Twitter @TheWombSauna.    

When creating that intimate rendezvous with that sexy someone Honey Luv has all of your boudoir sexcessories. Visit our website at Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store” or contact us at 337-944.9131. Like us on Facebook  and follow us on Twitter @TheHoneyDiva. For your sensual soul listen to HoneySoul Radio every Tuesday evening on Blog Talk Radio. Live in the sensual and love in the delicious.

 


Condoms 101: Safe Sex is Great Sex

 

 By: Janelle Whye ~ HIV & AIDS Educator

Condoms are used to make sex safer. Condoms can protect you during contact between the penis, mouth, vagina, or rectum. Condoms won’t protect you from HIV or other infections unless you use them correctly. They come in many forms: latex, non-latex, polyurethane (for those allergic to latex), polyisoprene (synthetic latex for those with latex allergies), lambskin, female, textured, lubricated, flavored, novelty and a variety of colors and sizes.

Novelty condoms are cute, fun and tasty but should not be used for contraception or to prevent STDS/STIs(sexually transmitted diseases/sexually transmitted infections) nor for anal or oral sex, thay are just cute!! They should not be used for safe sex as the manufacturers may not have gone through the requirements of the regulatory process required to label condoms safe for contraception and STD reduction (There are strict standards required for this process).

Use unlubricated and /or flavored condoms for oral sex (most lubricants taste awful). Flavored condoms or dental dams are suggested for safer oral sex. Some flavored condoms may be rated safe for oral sex but most are considered novelty items, check the box to be safe. 

Check the expiration date. Don’t use outdated condoms. Store condoms away from extreme heat, cold, or friction. Do not keep them in a wallet or a car glove compartment. Don’t open a condom package with your teeth. Be careful that your fingernails or jewelry don’t tear the condom. Body jewelry in or around your penis or vagina might also tear a condom. Remember, to never use the same condom from anal to vaginal penetration, and always use a water-based lubricant with latex condoms, not oil or silicone-based. The oils in Crisco, butter, baby oil, Vaseline, cocoa butter or cold cream will make latex fall apart, and we don’t want that.

Remember, safe sex is great sex! Whatever your mood or sensual persuasion when creating that intimate rendezvous with that sexy someone Honey Luv has all of your boudoir sexcessories. Visit our website at Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store” Like us on Facebook  and follow us on Twitter @TheHoneyDiva. For your sensual soul listen to HoneySoul Radio every Tuesday evening on Blog Talk Radio. Live in the sensual and love in the delicious.

Sex and Meditation

Photo Credit: AfroerotiK

What does sex have to do with meditation you ask?

Well it is an approach that you can use to help you cope with stress, and anxiety by way of thought, contemplation, and/or reflection.  Some meditation may require the body being absolutely still while other types allow free movement of the body. One’s choice and method may be different, but the end goal and result are all the same. Quieting the mind and freeing yourself from stress by the use of quiet contemplation and mindful reflection. In short relaxation and sex.

Just think about how enjoyable sex is when you are relaxed? Free from worry, pain and guilt. Having relaxed and conscious sexual contact can enhance pleasure and encourage sexual exploration. Here are some keys to sharing sex as a form of meditation.

  • Let go of any expectations

Stop expecting something specific to happen during sex. Live in the moment and experience all of love’s intimacy and pleasure. During sex, we are so driven by the end result to climax that we may be, in effect, forcing a result. This tension  can do just the opposite and make it that much harder for you to really be true to the pleasures of sex between you and your partner.

  • Enjoy the moment

Be in the present moment. Don’t get carried away by thoughts. Don’t think about the past or the future. Live and love truly in the here and now and release all unwanted thoughts that can cause you to lose sight of truly engaging in lovemaking with your lover. Let time stand still and enjoy!

  • Become physically relaxed

Your body and your mind should be in a natural position and relaxed. Both the mind and the body should be comfortable.  Gently controlling your breathing is one way to center yourself and allowing yourself to go into an even deeper state of relaxation.

  • Be in a state of peace

Stop focusing and thinking too hard. Don’t try and control your thoughts. Turn off the inner dialogue in your head. Don’t be anxious about your performance. Allow what comes next to come naturally, and give your mind permission to go into a natural state of rest. Sex is so much more than physical performance. It is mental state and has the ability to relieve stress and transcend you and your lover into a deeper state of orgasmic bliss.

Whatever your mood or sensual persuasion when creating that intimate rendezvous with that sexy someone Honey Luv has all of your boudoir sexcessories. Visit our website at Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store” Like us on Facebook  and follow us on Twitter @TheHoneyDiva. For your sensual soul listen to HoneySoul Radio every Tuesday evening on Blog Talk Radio. Live in the sensual and love in the delicious.