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THREE THINGS MEN CRAVE

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There are 3 primary things that men must have and receive from their women. It is what we as women should be nurturing in our men to bring the best out in him and his character. He must feel important in the relationship. He must know that his feelings matter. Don’t sleep on these three insights. They can make or break your love relationship.

1. Desire – We must make our men feel wanted, needed and appreciated. We can show him just how much by how we display levels of affection. Touching, kissing and holding him is a great way to show him you got a thing for him. Spontaneous sex is necessary in reassuring him that you crave him.

2. Loyalty – Men need to know that you respect them and hold their opinions in high regard. They must feel assured that what they have with you is in confidence and trust at home and in public. Once a man feels that you value his feelings he will open up and feel comfortable in being himself and sharing his true feelings with you.

3. Appreciation – Men need to know that what they provide to the relationship has value, and it doesn’t always need to be monetary. It’s the little things that he does that also need recognition. Communicate your appreciation in words and with sexual affection. Make love to him with sexual enthusiasm. Add some bomb ass head and YOU GOT HIM and he got YOU!

Now, go and elevate your love and your relationship. Take your love thang to the next level. 

Tracey R. Bryant is a sensual woman known as “The Honey Diva”. She is a Sexual Empowerment Coach, of Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store. and Feminine Health, Yoni Steam Practitioner and Womb Wellness Educator of Sensual Honey Feminine Wellness . She’s the creator and Yoni Alchemist of Sensual Honey Sweet Yoni Tea, and the hostess of HoneySoul Radio  a Love, Sex and Soul online radio show. She can be contacted at thehoneydiva1@gmail.com

Love, Money, Milk and Honey

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I hear so many women say they won’t or don’t want to accept a man’s money, under any circumstance. I have heard them say that they don’t feel right accepting money from a man because they feel as though they are prostituting themselves when they have laid down with him, and he offers to pay a bill, or an expense, or ask her how he may provide for her with something she needs or wants. Some women get offended when a  man states his desire to gift her with anything that holds any monetary value. Women have told me they feel cheap, and they don’t need a man to provide for them. That they can provide for themselves. These are things that make me go, “Hmmm!” I raise an eyebrow or two. “Why do I raise an eyebrow you ask?” Because I also hear these same women complain about there being no good men. 

I don’t care what anyone says a man having money is super sexy! Knowing how to double it up and triple stack it is such a major turn on. Being broke isn’t pretty or attractive at anytime. In order for our union to be successful, expand and grow we have to be willing to receive. 

We attract what we think and what we feel. If we think and feel there are no good men, that is what we will attract. We will attract cheap, insensitive, self-centered men, who can give a rat’s ass if we eat, if we keep our your lights on, have gas in our car, if our car note is paid, if we get to work or not, or make it to class on time, if we need toilet paper, or if we have pampered ourselves lately, and if we are feeling comfortable or not. I could go on and on. However, I personally have no problem sharing my time, space and energy with a man who loves to provide for me. A man who feels I am deserving of his money. These qualities get me all hot and bothered. He has found one very important way to stimulate my succulent center. I am full of sexual energy, and ready to reward him with all my moist, juicy goodness.

man-giving-woman-money 1A man sharing his money to honor what he feels, and who he believes to be a deserving woman is a man not only sharing his money but his wealth. I’m not just speaking of monetary wealth. I’m talking about his view of who you are in connection to his wealth, to his assets, his substance and his self-worth. It’s much deeper than the surface of what we think money represents. It has to do with his mentality, and his state of mind about what he feels he deserves when it comes to you, and what he feels you deserve when it comes to him. He has included you in his wealthy place. A real man knows that when his woman is happy she will be at her greatest potential. At her greatest potential she will inspire him and give him what he needs to develop, grow and expand. A man who is willing to share his money with you is a man who is honoring his manhood in connection to who you are as a woman, who you are as a nurturer, and your feminine ability to bring out the best in him, how you influence, and inspire him, how you make him feel when he is with you, and even how your energy makes him feel when you’re not with him. He is ultimately honoring you.

Let’s be clear! This inspiration that I speak of is stimulated through SEX! Yes, ladies I know what many of you are thinking,  “Sex and money is not something that should be exchanged. There isn’t any amount of money that equates to my pussy. It’s priceless!”

I agree! My love and my body are priceless and no amount of money can match it’s worth. This is why when a man has a serious thing for YOU he will continuously share his money, and his wealth in a variety of ways over and again. Because in his spirit that man knows he is honoring you through his worth, and a man’s worth is connected to his wallet, and his means of providing, and proving his affections. Men want SEX, support, love, encouragement and reassurance, and most of the time in that order. We have been misinformed about sex and money. “Sex is the GREAT motivator. Men will move mountains.” Quote me as saying that. It’s Yin and Yang. Male and Female. It’s Universal Law, Cosmic Order and Divine Principle. What we know to be Sacred Masculine energy releases, gives out and is action oriented, with a desire to manifest, and produce. Divine Feminine energy receives, absorbs, nurtures, develops and nourishes with a desire to multiply, and increase in and of itself, giving birth whether that be an idea, a vision, a child or our man. Yes, Ladies we are constantly using our feminine energy to rebirth our men.

man giving a woman a giftThe #1 thing we women want is SECURITY. “Security equals money.” Think about it! We want to know that we don’t have to worry about the eviction or foreclosure notice being stuck on the door next month, or that our home and place of refuge, or our comfort is being threatened.  As women most of us need to feel secure to engage in sex with a man, especially if we are contemplating having a relationship. Security brings comfort, and security and comfort brings about more sex. More great sex! When you are happy and secure you desire to have sex all the time. We stay hot and ready! Security and comfort enhances romance, happiness and pleasure. We create and experience BOMB orgasms when we feel secure. Rather it’s financial, emotional, or mental. Security equates stability. We need are men to be stable. Men need sex to thrive. . 

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A man without money can’t support his role in providing, protecting nor securing his position as THE MAN, and we can’t expect him to contribute his part if we won’t accept his money. A Real Man desires to give, and provide for the woman he professes he loves, and if he doesn’t have it he’s thinking of a means of getting it, because she is his inspiration. Just think about how happy the two of you are when you are not stressing about money issues? Ladies, don’t ever become so independent that you won’t allow a man to provide, or do for you. Even if you do have it for yourself, allow him his rightful place in being a MAN. Allow him the room to do what he is born to do. Ladies, a real man wants to spoil YOU!  Accept him in all of his generosity. Let him play his position. We can eliminate many bad, drama filled relationships if we step our game up,  increase our self worth and recognize our pussy potential. 

I feel there is no bigger turn OFF then a man having money and not releasing it, especially if he desires to release his semen all inside my hot sugar walls. I would certainly play myself small if I were to do without, and Mister is enjoying all of my creamy essence while depositing his DNA.  As the saying goes, “No romance without finance.” This is true. There is nothing good that’s going to come out of any relationship between a man and a woman if he is not responsible for his portion of the supervision. 

When it’s all said and done we can LOVE his dirty drawers, but love doesn’t keep the lights on. Love and money are a great combination. Love, SEX and money now that’s the ULTIMATE collabo! Anything is possible and can be done when in love, while enjoying the binding commitment of two souls experiencing orgasm, and working from a space of abundance. The KINGDOM & QUEENDOM of Heaven is at hand. Balance is key. Without money, there’s no milk and honey. Ladies, let him adore you. 

Want more of this “Love, Sex and Money” wisdom listen to HoneySoul Radio “Sex Love & Prosperity” with Rev. Goddess Charmaine. We discuss Sexual Energy Flow, Abundance, Prosperity, Sexual Transmutation, Wealth, and how to change our limited thinking about money. ~ The Honey Diva 

Tracey R. Bryant also known as “The Honey Diva” is a Romance Specialist, a Self Love and Sensual Empowerment Coach, Holistic Sexual Health, Yoni Steam and Kemetic Reiki Practitioner, Womb Wellness, and Sex Educator. She is the owner of Sensual Honey Feminine Wellness – a new feminine and tranquil spa experience. She is also the owner of Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store.” A sensual empowerment boutique that promotes romance, sensual and sexual health and wellness to women and couples. She is the hostess of HoneySoul Radio a Love, Sex and Relationship online radio show. She can be contacted at honeysweetness1@gmail.com

Know Thyself: To My Own Self Be True

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I’ve had women come to me and ask, “Aren’t you lonely because you’re not in a relationship?” It puzzles me why people would feel because I’m alone, that I’m lonely. Believe me, I’m far from it. I have relationships on every level with men who are fortifying and stimulating without the partnership, the marriage, or the drama. Many women think because I’m “The Honey Diva” , a sexual empowerment coach, and love connoisseur that assist women on how to create and increase their sexual pleasure that I must have a man; better yet that I must be with a man to solidify, validate and justify my sexual teachings of female pleasure and empowerment. But, truth be told I’m so good at loving me, all of me, loving me up and down, inside and out in every way that I can right now, that I’m the only one that can do it this good. I’m in love with the exploration of ME. I learned a while ago that the average relationship isn’t for me. It’s not always an easy task to meet a man who is secure enough within himself to love, and have a relationship with me, especially in my line of work. It takes a man who knows his power, and potential and is self aware in his masculinity, as well as his femininity to understand my passion and purpose. Some may be able to tolerate it, but only for a while before he demands I change.

Some men find my sexuality, freedom, empowerment, and my voice very sexy, and supportive to their image and their ego’s however I’ve been told by a few that I’m too intense, and too sophisticated. If I was seeking validation that would have made me feel inadequate. But, my self worth won’t allow it. However, every woman loves the acceptance of a man. His sacred masculine energy brings us balance and supports our feminine nature, and our roles as women. We do depend on them for this support and encouragement.

It’s my passion to assist women in recognizing and developing their self worth, and being more than enough, and loving ourselves holistically; mind, body and soul, and it’s the very thing that some of my Sista’s use against me. Some women suspect because I’m not married, or in a committed relationship I’m not worthy to teach about the sexual arts, or how to enhance your relationship. However, the first thing that enhances any love relationship is self love. You have to have some to give some, and to get some in return.  My work is to assist women in enhancing self love, sexual pleasure and to identify, awaken and restore your personal power, sexual magnetism, and to recognize your pussy potential.  I’ve experienced intimate conversations with some very beautiful, prestigious, scholarly men who speak highly of the feminine energy and it’s Universal principle, tantra and sexual healing.  As free, and charming as some of these men are the cultural and social view of how men are conditioned to perceive women as sexual objects, versus sexual beings, and inferior to masculine energy is still very pervasive within their psyche, beliefs, values and characteristics. 

Out of frustration I’ve asked myself, “Why does my being alone, and not in a committed relationship, or in a marriage constitutes that I’m lonely, and what does that belief say about us as women when we think that way of one another? I’m supposed to be desperate because I don’t choose to be in a relationship that doesn’t nourish and fortify my essence, or my soul, just for the sake of saying I’m not alone, and “I have a man?”

That’s some old Betty Wright type shit! “A piece of man is better than no man at all.” No disrespect to “Betty Wright” or the Blues. We can learn a lot from the Blues. 

All that is superficial, and on the surface. It’s societies way of dictating to women that we are not normal if we aren’t in a committed relationship. I have to ask myself, “How committed is it if I’m not living and loving to my FULLEST feminine potential with a masculine partner that doesn’t inspire this elevation?” That means I’m no longer true to myself. I’ve come to the conclusion that I may not be the marrying type, at least not in the ways and the laws of this land.

I’ve discovered that most marriages start out in love, and then become about possession, obligation, and the ownership of the person, including their thoughts, actions and deeds. I don’t desire to have a man that I’m loving organically and holistically with my mind, body and soul as my mere possession, and vice versa. I desire something that transcends gravity and elevates beyond the 3rd dimension. I desire vulnerability, integrity, movement, sexual intensity, frequency, progression, elevation, expansion, spirituality, prosperity and surrender. Most people aren’t working on that level of manifesting LOVE, performance and companionship. I am self aware, not to be confused with being self absorbed. I know and recognize that I AM feminine energy personified, in physical form. I am fertile, creative, attractive and ever abundant. I am POWERFUL and I am the most magnetic energy on the planet and in the Universe. Why would I settle for anything less than who I am?

I LOVE men. Oooh, I love my Brotha’s. They are sexy, beautiful, smart, funny, loving, strong, protective, and that masculine swagger is oh, so fine! I love my natural ability to influence, build, entice, feed and draw them to me. That makes him ever so sexy and even more beautiful. However, in sharing myself with him I won’t reduce myself nor my desire of fulfillment, or lower my voice, nor will I cool off my pussy. My pussy is HOT, juicy, soft, wet, supple and ravenous and her dexterity needs and wants what it wants! I am the whole package, and I’m working on my issues. I’m constantly improving. So, yes I deserve the same and more. My dear Sista you do too!

Take your time of solitude to work on loving you, and becoming fully self aware, working through your issues of past hurts, and releasing old relationship wounds. Yes, ladies this means self pleasure – masturbate. Know what it is you desire physically, emotionally, spiritually and sexually. Romance your DAMN self! This is the only way you are going to get acquainted with you. If you look at yourself as lonely because you don’t have a mate that’s a sign of desperation, and men who prey on lonely women can smell it from a mile away. As you grow in your self awareness, and begin romancing and having a love affair with yourself your standards will increase, and the drama will cease. You will begin to attract a different quality of men. Men who want to provide, and protect you. Men who will profess their love to you and for you.

When we connect I will know him because I will transform into a new level of me, with him. I will be the yin to his yang, the fire to his ice, his inspiration to his thought, his Bonnie to his Clyde, the vision to his provision. I will be all encompassing WOMAN, and through this compliment and sacred balance I will be a better, more loving, and passionate feminine sexual being, discovering more of me in this extension of love. Yes, I’m sophisticated, intense, soft, bold, voluptuous, intelligent, knowledgeable, loving, sensual, compassionate and sharp. However, I am far from being alone especially when I know exactly what it is I deserve. Now, chew on that for a minute and tell me how it taste. “Know Thyself!”  To your own self  BE true.

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When creating that intimate rendezvous for self pleasure Honey Luv has all of your self  love sexcessories. Visit our website at  Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store” or contact us at 337.944.9131 Like us on Facebook  and follow us on Twitter @TheHoneyDiva. For your sensual soul listen to our radio show on Tuesday evenings at 9 pm CST on HoneySoul Radio on Blog Talk Radio.  Regardless to relationship status always, “Live in the sensual and LOVE in the Delicious.”

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SEX & PREGNANCY: A Beautiful Rendezvous

There are many myths surrounding sex and pregnancy. However, sex during pregnancy can actually be most enjoyable. For some women they become very orgasmic for the first time or multi-orgasmic because of the lack of birth control. This eliminates the fear or possibility of getting pregnant because one already is…Go figure. Despite medical advancements and religious miracles aside all pregnancy starts with a sex act. Your sexual activity during pregnancy will depend on these key factors:

  • You and your partners beliefs about sex
  • Emotional state during your pregnancy
  • Any physical limitations during your pregnancy

 

If you and your partner are good to go on all levels then please do. Pregnancy is a great time of bonding for you and your lover, and sex is such an added bonus. Besides most men love it because of the increase in vaginal lubrication. The warm wetness  is such a turn on for men.

At some point during pregnancy women may feel large and uncomfortable. However, men generally find the pregnant body very erotic and desirable.  If you are feeling unattractive because of your body changes talk about your attitudes towards your body and sexuality. Remember, not to beat yourself up over what you cannot control.  Many times during the first and third trimester women feel less sexual because of hormonal and body changes. Communicate these feelings of what makes you feel good and what doesn’t. Discuss with your partner what is going on and what he can do to help you be sexual.

Creativity should be your keyword during pregnancy. Do whatever works. There are many sex positions that are more comfortable as your body changes and you expand. Here are some suggestions:

  • Ride Him -Woman on top
  • Spooning -Man behind woman
  • Doggy Style -Hands and Knees
  • Side Laying – with your knee pulled up
  • Oral sex -great head

 

Also,  more cuddling, relaxing baths, romantic dinners, massages, mutual masturbation, whatever you and your partner agree upon and discuss is exactly what you need to do. These conversations and creative sexual will lead to a more happy and fulfilling sex life and make two very happy parents.

If you want to learn more on this topic check out “Your Orgasmic Pregnancy: Little Sex Secrets Every Hot Mama Should Know” by Danielle Cavallucci & Yvonne K. Fulbright Ph.D or Nina Hartley’s Guide to Great Sex During Pregnancy (DVD).

For all of your boudoir sexcessories visit our website at Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store” Like us on Facebook  and follow us on Twitter @TheHoneyDiva. For your sensual soul listen to HoneySoul Radio every Tuesday evening on Blog Talk Radio. Live in the sensual and love in the delicious. 

6 GREAT TIPS TO ANAL EROTICISM

 

 Anal sex is a risky subject among many women. The fear and the pain associated with the first time still resonates in our memory as a bad experience. From that moment we vowed never to do it again. We agreed with ourselves that we didn’t like it, and it just wasn’t for us. First of all ladies we went about it all wrong. No one ever told us that women control that entire experience from beginning to end. We automatically trusted that our partners knew what they were doing. I mean after all that’s what he said…”Baby, I got it. Just relax…I know what I’m doing.” As he stands behind you and slathers his saliva on his penis. We remember the moment all to well. Well, ladies here are some tips that can bring you to the point of anal pleasure and anal eroticism comfortably…

Anal Sex Tip #1  Just relax. Do whatever you need to do to enhance relaxation. Drink a glass a wine. Get a relaxing massage or take a warm bubble bath. I’m sure your lover wouldn’t mine pouring the wine, running the bath, or giving you a body massage. Especially if he knows what’s coming next.

Anal Sex Tip #2  You have to envision yourself having a pleasurable experience. Think happy thoughts. See yourself as a sexual goddess willing to go on an adventure for sexual satisfaction. This helps to eliminate fear and bring a level of comfort.

Anal Sex Tip #3  Communicate with your lover that you need him to take his time and go slow. Tell him don’t rush the process. So, be patient…We are not porn stars! We are regular woman. Tell him everything you need him to do for you to feel comfortable while having your anal sex experience. Once again he will do just what you ask of him. Tell him slow and easy.

Anal Sex Tip #4  Stimulation. You have to be turn on and turned up. A good amount of foreplay is always a great start. Have him do and say all of those nasty things you like him to do and say during sex. Have him touch all of those magical spots you need him to touch to keep you aroused.  Using a small anal toy is a great way to warm up. Always use an anal toy with a stopper so it doesn’t go to far in the anal cavity. The anal muscles are strong and it’s not a good look going into the ER at 3 a.m. Using a silver bullet to stimulate your clitoris is a wonderful sensation. Clitoral stimlation can bring blood flow to your pelvic region and it works to distract you from your anxiety.

Anal Sex Tip #5  Proper lubrication is a must. Spit, baby oil, lotion, cooking oil etc… are not proper methods of lubrication. You can’t ever have too much lube when he’s getting the booty. Lubricate his penis librally and around your anal area for a smoother insertion.  Silicone lube is the best. We recommend Wet Platinum Lubrication

Anal Sex Tip #6  Proper anal penetration. We women have to control the penetration – not them. We move onto his penis. He should never be the one creating the insertion. Women controls all of the insertion and penetration. He just needs to stand there until you tell him what to do. She needs to sort of PUSH down as she moves onto the penis. Pushing helps relax the muscle set in the anus and opens it up a bit more to allow for penetration. No going wild or crazy humping with your female partner. Unless she wants you to, of course.  If anything hurts – STOP.  Anal penetration should not hurt.

With all of these things in place you should be on your way to enjoying the good feeling of anal eroticism. Yes, ladies we do have anal orgasms. (smile) They run from our clitoris to all of our erogenous zones. The anus has 6,000 nerve endings and there can be lots of pleasure from that area of the body. It definitely depends on how much you are aroused and mental stimulation as well. If  you want to learn more about this topic,  Look up Tristan Taormino and her website www.puckerup.com on google. She is the queen of “anal sex” education. We also carry her book on “The Ultimate Anal Sex Guide for Women” at Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store.”

Visit our website at Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store” for all of your fun loving boudoir sexcessories. Join our Facebook fan page and follow us on Twitter@TheHoneyDiva. For your sensual soul listen to HoneySoul Radio every Tuesday on Blog Talk Radio. Live in the sensual and love in the delicious.