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Women’s History Month: Where’s Your Orgasm Black Women?

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With the celebration of Women’s History this month we can’t forget the impact it had on the “Sexual Revolution.” It was a movement that gave voice to women’s sexual pleasure. She was no longer just a mere tool for men, and their need for sexual release and pleasure. She became sexually liberated! She took off those binding undergarments, and began a social movement that challenged traditional codes of behavior related to sexuality and interpersonal relationships throughout the Western world from the 1960s to the 1980s. Sexual liberation included increased acceptance of sex outside of traditional heterosexual, monogamous relationships, and premarital sex. It gave emphasis on women’s self pleasure, body acceptance, contraception, erotic fantasy, and orgasm. YES, I said it ORGASM! It also gave birth to feminism.

Many black women joined the Feminist Movement in search of equality. However, white women and black women’s fight for freedom and equality were very different in respects that white woman were looking to become liberated from her subjugation under her husband, from being white men’s property. It was true we had the same oppressor but, we had very different agendas. Black women desired liberation for herself, her husband, father, sons, daughters, mothers, and community. It wasn’t just about us, black women! We had children, and families. We had pretty black babies who were also developing under social, racial, and economic oppression. We had husbands who were just as much oppressed if not more, under this same order of oppression. Our issue was more about racial equality, educational access, and economic opportunity. We had a WHOOOOOLE lot more fish to fry!

It was about so much more than sexual independence, and pulling off our bras in the street. Many black women left the Feminist Movement and created their own independent Black Feminist movement, and theory that dealt with the issues of black women, race, family, cultural, economic and social conditions. Black Feminist needed to be a firm and viable voice for and within the Black Power movement. This created another challenge for black women. Many were not taken seriously in the Black Power movement due to the conditions in which male domination over women was well saturated in the fabric of American society, and within Black Culture. Black women were left finding her place and her voice, and this was a big addition to our strain within our Black Love relationships.

However, the order of male rule over women in general took shape many moons before slavery. It began in the 4th century  when Roman Emperor Constantine destroyed the Goddess Temples, and the worship of Black Goddesses, and replaced them with White Male Gods and the religion of Christianity. This was the era of doing away with the Feminine Principle, Goddess honor, and worship and the Matriarchal order.  It was replaced with the implementation of the European colonial rule, patriarchal order, government, white male privilege and ideology, and it was circulated throughout the globe.

Black women and white women may have the same oppressor but clearly we had two different fights. In the words of Mama Zogbe, “Before there was a war on Women's Powerrace there was a war on sex, their was a war against the feminine principle, and the Black Goddess.”

Not only were black women fighting for the rights of the family and community we were fighting for the right to be taking seriously within Western culture and society.

Many black women feel we shouldn’t be looked at or viewed as erotic or as sexual symbols in society. But, how else do you expect the Mother of Civilization to be viewed? Sexual energy is the generated driving force and life force of all existence. Because we are the first mothers of civilization, Black women are the driving force of this sexual nature. Yes, it’s a sad thing that this natural admiration has been denigrated to a form of mere lust, and tainted sexual psychology, however it can’t be denied. 

During my experiences as a sex worker. Many white men I have encountered subconsciously knew black women are the First Mothers. These men desired to be sexually dominated, often times through humiliation and painful measures of fulfillment, bowing into submission as they confessed their sins, negative and abusive behavior toward black women while honoring, praising and calling us Goddess, Queen, and Mother of the Universe. At the time I looked at this as some freaky fetish that I was providing for my clients. But, years later as I began to study women’s history, I now view it as an attempt for white men to redeem themselves of their past and current transgressions, and generational iniquity. Yeah, I know a trip, right? My life and stories as a former sex worker are many, and adventurous. It was amazing and I had a blast! *wink*

Now, this brings me to ask, “Where is your orgasm Black women? Yes, we know It wasn’t our agenda to fight for sexual liberation over our racial freedom and equality. But, now many of us have continued to do the same things that many of our fighting foremothers did, put ourselves on the back burning for our children, husbands, and families while everything, and everyone we profess that we love grows, and progresses around us. As the saying goes, “If Momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy!” I’m a firm believer of that!

Again, I ask you, “Where is YOUR orgasm Black women?” Where is your desire to be ALIVE, smell the roses, enjoy the wine, and eat the cookie DAMN IT!  Where is your desire to LIVE in your PURPOSE, and dream BIG? Have you denied your life and sacrificed, loving sexual experiences, and our amazing pleasure potential, for careers, advancement, and opportunity, while never enjoy the fruits of our labor? If you are having amazing, body shaking, Earth quaking orgasms good for you, continue BE alive, and elevate in joy, happiness, and the will to think and feel at one with everything in nature. Remain fertile and ABUNDANT.

black-man-kissing-black-womanBlack LOVE exists and it’s FREEDOM is based on our political, social, sexual and economic influence… “When you want to destroy a community and a people. One must destroy their romantic love. ” – Dr. Amos Wilson, “Purpose of Love in Black Female & Male Relationships.” 

Let’s not allow our desire for conscious activism within our families and communities keep us from springing forth in our feminine power, sexual freedom and pleasure. Let’s not sacrifice the intimacy and binding power of sexual pleasure in our relationships to create another kind of oppression that affects our relationships with ourselves, and our lovers. Everything needs balance, and order.

Celebrate Women’s History and re-introduce yourself to pleasure, whether it be self-pleasure or the pleasure of your lover. We are forging out of the mold of being simply the pleasure and domestic property of men. Experience sexual pleasure and liberate your soul. Let FREEDOM ring with some oooh’s and ahhh’s of healthy relationships and orgasm!

Want to know more about Women and Religion? Check out one of my favorite books that started me on the path of the Goddess, “When God Was a Women” by Merlin Stone. Also, need more information concerning the black women as Goddess and Matriarchal order before patriarchal manipulation? Check out Mama Zogbe’s book The Sybils: The Theft of African Prophecy by The Catholic Church.

For more on Black Feminist thoughts and theory check out www.blackfeminists.org and Patricia Hill Collin’s book, “Black Feminist Thought: Knowledge, Consciousness, and the Politics of Empowerment.”

Tracey R. Bryant also known as “The Honey Diva” is a Romance Specialist, a Self Love and Sensual Empowerment Coach, Holistic Sexual Health, Yoni Steam and Kemetic Reiki Practitioner, Womb Wellness, and Sex Educator. She is the owner of Sensual Honey Feminine Wellness – a new feminine and tranquil spa experience. She is also the owner of Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store.” A sensual empowerment boutique that promotes romance, sensual and sexual health and wellness to women and couples. She is the hostess of HoneySoul Radio a Love, Sex and Relationship online radio show. She can be contacted at TheHoneyDiva1@gmail.com





Love and The Spirit of Intuition

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Do you know how many of us ask our spirit intuition a question and don’t trust in the answer? Your intuition is your sweet sacred spot of divine knowing. It’s a gateway to your higher self. It’s that whisper that signals your heart. Many of us ignore it because it’s not often times practical. Your spirit intuition works as a  life coach, psychic or oracle. Your spirit intuition is just that “Your inner oracle.” Its your GUIDE! It moves from question to solution in 0 to 5 seconds and it comes as a feeling, a hunch, a nudge, a word or a thought in your spirit.

Our bodies are energy conduits and receives messages from our MOST HIGH source when we are tapped in and wired for sound. Meditation is a great way to develop your capacity for connecting to spirit intuition. Feeding and nourishing our bodies with organic live whole foods is also a great source of energizing and intensifying our senses, making us more sensitive to receiving our answers and messages.

Our senses is how our spirit intuition speaks to us. It’s through sight and vision often times in our dreams. Certain smells and aromas can spark thoughts. The art of touch, the laying of hands holds and transfers energy. The ability to hear with our hearts and spirits brings on feelings and empathic energy. Speaking and channeling communication from our spirit selves, and even communicating with our ancestors, or celestial beings brings messages of direction. This form of communication can move and motivate us to higher aspirations and elevated levels of love and experience. Thorough the transmission of our senses is how we are giving the ability to communicate with our higher selves. It’s often times what we call GOD and/or GODDESS.

One of the many reasons we find ourselves in bad situations and many toxic and love less relationships is because in many cases we never ask our spirit intuition for help or guidance. We may have even gotten a nudge, a hunch, a vision, a word and/or a sign of some kind and ignored it all together. However, our spirit of intuition is very powerful and is our deepest connection to TRUTH in our inner and outer worlds.

Try this: If you have a decision to make then imagine the two alternatives. Step into the first option, imagine it in your mind. What do you see? feel? hear? sense? believe? What are your thoughts in that moment? If you feel lightness, peace and joy then TRUST YOURSELF! This is a good choice for you. If you feel fear, hesitation, and that strong feeling in the pit of your stomach that signals something isn’t right then TRUST YOURSELF! This may not be the best choice for you!

You can also do the same when dating. Spirit intuition works better than any dating site. We can tap into this portal of sacred guidance whenever we open our hearts and replace fear with love.

Try this: Before going on a first date write down your date’s name and place your hand over it. Close your eyes and do a short meditation and quiet your mind. Now, ask yourself… “Is this person good for my spirit?” Ask to feel their energy. If the energy you feel of the person makes you smile and you become light hearted and happy, that’s a YES from your spirit intuition. Your higher self is telling you that this person will be a loving presence in your life. If the energy you feel revs up your sexual nature, and elevates thoughts of sensual, sexual touch that’s telling you what the focus of this relationship will be. Look forward to having great sexual experiences. Oooh, la, la!

If the energy feels bad and is in the pit of your stomach and you feel anxious, or nauseous, and get a feeling that is uncomfortable or uneasy, cancel the date. If you don’t feel a warm loving energy in your heart, that resonates through your body while picturing and feeling this person’s energy, this probably won’t be a FULL filling or productive relationship on any account. The spirit of intuition operates from a space of  LOVE.

So, when you ask – ask specifically, ask with LOVE and without expectation, ask without projecting fear or negative emotions, and ask like you expect to receive an answer! You will hear that internal voice that sounds much like YOU! Now, all you have to do is LISTEN and OBEY to what LOVE has to say.

“Ask and it will be given, seek and you will find, knock and it will be opened to you.” (Luke, 11:7)

Need some help nudging your inner wisdom and connecting with your spirit of intuition get your very own Love Tarot Reading with Madame The Honey Diva. Call 337.944.9131 and book your session today. Gain insight and clarity on Love, Sex, Healing and Abundance.

Remember when creating that intimate rendezvous with that sexy someone Honey Luv has all of your boudoir sexcessories. Visit our website at  Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store” or contact us at 337.944.9131 Like us on Facebook  and follow us on Twitter @TheHoneyDiva. For your sensual soul listen to our radio show  Tuesday evening at 9pm CST on HoneySoul Radio on Blog Talk Radio. Live in the sensual and LOVE in the delicious.

The WOMB: Your Sacred Seat of Divine Power

The womb is the seat of absolute divine presence and power. Your womb is your sacred spot, a gateway and portal. It is a spirit incubator. It is the mothership in which all life and spirit is transported. It is directly linked to our creativity. Our womb brings forth life on all levels of body, mind & spirit.

Sex is sacred energy being exchanged. It is energy in motion. You are generating God and Goddess energy. Because of it’s sacred significance  it is important to be conscious of whom we choose to share this divine level of sexual energy and power. As women we are absorbers, and men are releasers. When women receive a man’s release into our Womb’s with or without love, his residual emotions and energies stay in the womb for up to seven years. This can cause emotional and spiritual stagnation of a woman’s divine creativity and decrease her natural ability to desire and create prosperity. This is why many times we find it hard to shake a certain man. Not being able to release him out of our system. In many cases we haven’t allowed just one man to enter our sacred sexual space, but several. The make up of all these different energies being released and stored in our wombs has caused unconscious emotional, mental and spiritual confusion and discomfort, also leading to physical dis-ease.

To restore and reclaim one’s supreme Goddess energy one has to have an understanding of the powers of our Goddess energy. The true powers of a Woman are; Love, Grace, Compassion, Nurturing, Serving, Creativity, Goodness, Humility, Softness, Honesty, Steadfastness, Inner Strength, and Wisdom. These attributes are at it’s highest level and vibration when we become anointed with the knowledge of our womb wisdom.

We need to honor our womb wisdom with a womb cleansing, a womb healing! I want to share with you  “The Womb Sauna” for womb health and optimal womb wellness. It is designed to detox and cleanse the womb with steam and natural herbs, an ancient healing ritual that is used to bring the womb back to optimal health and balance. Contact our friend Thema Azize Serwa  she is a womb practitioner, holistic healer and creator of “The Womb Sauna.” She has assisted countless women in  removing the blockages that keep us from moving forward in our health,  our dreams, our business and our prosperity.

In January 2012 we are entering into a new moon cycle. Let us become a new womb-man and cleanse and reclaim our sacred Womb wisdom and divine energy. Join Honey Luv as we celebrate our womb empowerment and come into perfect wholeness and balance while journeying into Womb Health and Healing on Sunday, January 22, 2012 in Lake Charles, Louisiana.

For all of your boudoir sexcessories visit our website at Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store.” Like us on Facebook  and follow us on Twitter @TheHoneyDiva. For your sensual soul listen to HoneySoul Radio every Tuesday evening on Blog Talk Radio. Live in the sensual and love in the delicious.