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Kama Sutra: Sexual Aids & Dildos… WHAT?

Kama Sutra

Lovers in ancient times had a responsibility one to another for sexual satisfaction, and lovemaking. In one of the world’s oldest sexual manuals the Kama Sutra, (“Kama” meaning love and desire, and “Sutra” meaning threading) it is said that lovemaking is a sacred duty between a man and a woman. It was taught within the natures of love, and a deep part of the culture, and as a way of life. Unlike what we are taught in today’s society. We are conditioned to feel shame, guilt and insecurity because of our natural sexual progression and sexual desire.

SensualFoodieChaiTeaSpices-1024x622During the 3rd century there was no such thing as an under orgasmic woman. A husband who was unable to satisfy his lover or his wife was to make every effort to remedy the situation. For a man’s inability to satisfy his wife was not part of the culture, and he must make every provision necessary that would either obtain his erection or encourage his wife’s sexual pleasure. Sages, and/or medicine men and women would prepare elixirs and aphrodisiacs with foods, herbs, and spice mixtures. Some consisted of goats milk, fennel, licorice, pumpkin seeds, cinnamon, almonds, honey, and ghee to strengthen the unfortunate man’s man muscle, and stimulate his sexual desire. If these elixirs weren’t bringing about the desired sexual results in a timely manner he was to remedy the sexually unfortunate situation with foreplay, oral sex or an artificial penis. Yes, you heard it right, a DILDO! He was to skillfully use an artificial penis to give sexual pleasure to his wife. This verse gives instruction to an artificial penis to be used to bring women to orgasmic delight and sexual satisfaction.

Gold Vibrator 2“The man who is utterly unable to achieve an erection should pleasure his wife/lover with a phallus crafted from materials like gold, silver, copper, iron, ivory or horn. The artificial phallus should be shaped to your natural proportions. It will be more arousing for the lady if the outside is studded with a profusion of large, smooth nodules” ( Kama Sutra: Part 7, Chapter 1, Sutras 4–8).

Ooooh, it sounds like these studs and nodules was meant for more vaginal stimulation and arousal upon entry and during penetration. Oh my! Who knew? Here we thought we were sexually advanced in the art of sexual novelties and stimulation, and ancient lovers created methods , means and artifacts to keep a woman happy and sexually satisfied in ancient times!

Black IntimacyFor those you who are sexually frustrated because of your belief that using sexual aids is prohibited. Give yourself permission to experience sexual aids, sexual pleasure, and it’s wonderful release with sexual innovation, and intervention. Don’t cheat yourself, treat yourself with a wonderful dong, dildo, and/or vibrator that can make your love life increase in sexual happiness, and orgasmic pleasure. Men love your woman enough to move pass your ego and let her become sexually satisfied until your beautiful man muscle is putting in work at optimal performance. Remember, a happy wife means a happy life!

When creating that intimate rendezvous with your lover Honey Luv has all of your boudoir sexcessories.  Visit our website at  Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store” or contact us at 337.944.9131 Like us on Facebook  and follow us on Twitter @TheHoneyDiva. For your sensual soul listen to our radio show on Tuesday evenings at 9 pm CST on HoneySoul Radio on Blog Talk Radio.  Remember to “Live in the sensual and LOVE in the Delicious.”

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FOREPLAY: Get More Play!

Foreplay is not just physical. Good foreplay is letting go of inhibitions that can keep you from enjoying yourself and your lover. Feeling good about yourself and your feelings will give you the confidence you need to arrive at sensual and sexual pleasure. Creating your space and environment ahead of time with sexy lingerie, a bubble bath, soft music, candles, and aromatic or tasty love oils will give you more control when the time comes to be sensually aroused. When you want to enhance a sacred union with a sexy and romantic mood the sense of smell (aromatic stimulation), touch (cuddling & massage), taste (kissing & oral stimulation), sight (sexy lingerie), and sound (music) are all participants in you and your lover having a pleasurable erotic experience.
Men may not need foreplay to have sex. Hell, many guys are good to go after just a gust of wind. But a new study proves that guys ache for a little pre-sex action. However, most women have never learned this key lust lesson.  Research shows that men are as interested in foreplay as women are and that they want more than they’re having.  The reason is simple. Men appreciate foreplay for the same reasons women do — it feels good physically, so the common consensus that men like it fast and furious is only a myth. But now that you’re clued into this covert carnal craving, you can give him the bedroom buildup he’s jonesin’ for. Here are some  foreplay for him tips.

 Kiss Him Hard

Men like intense, down and dirty, rough and raw kissing. Men are turned on by women who are confident and passionate while kissing. Make it an all over body experience.

Put your whole body into the act of making out, says Ava Cadell, Ph.D., author of Stock Market Orgasm. “The more body parts involved, the more intense the experience.” Her formula for an earthshaking smacker he’ll never forget: Cradle his face with one hand and grab his butt with the other while you simultaneously press your breasts and pelvis against him.

Tantalize All of His Senses

Too often, touch is the only sense that takes center stage during pre-intercourse play. But to graduate from basic to mind-blowing foreplay, you have to incorporate all of his passion receptors. Every type of sensory stimulation — the sight of a woman’s body, her whispers and the smell of her skin activates parts of the brain responsible for sexual arousal. Create a combination that treats several senses at the same time. This is the key to a beyond-divine buildup, especially for men. Other ways to make foreplay a full-body experience: Leave the lights on and listen to an extra-sexy CD, or dim the lights and give him a sexy lapdance, take a shower together by the light of scented candles, or drizzle each other with champagne and lick it off as it fizzes on your skin. These are sure fire ways to keep each of your super aroused.

Take Charge

In bed, guys are often so focused on pleasing their partners that they don’t get to bask in being a sex object. By taking the reins, “not only does it show him that you’re into the action as much as he is, but it also feels great to him to have somebody concentrating on his pleasure,” says Dr. Ava Cadell. You know the feeling, right? So, call some shots in the sack Ms. Thang. For instance, if he makes a move to head down below, pull him back up and instead give him the oral affection he deserves.

Bring Him to the Brink

Once you’ve gotten him to a combustible point, he’ll be begging to get to the main event. Ignore him. It’s a guaranteed way to drive him wild with horny, and amplify his orgasm later. The more someone anticipates sex, the more aroused they get, and therefore, the intensity of their sexual experience increases. For example, “almost oral sex” Head down south, get real close and then pass by with just a hot breath. By the time you finally put your mouth on him, it feels so good that he will almost cry with relief. We promise he’ll be begging for mercy.

Let’s not forget the after play ladies. It is just as important. Stroke his hair gently while in his arms. Whisper words of love softly in his ear. Kiss his neck gently. Stroke him tenderly while he lies in your arms and leave a love note in the bathroom. Let him know that you enjoyed him fully. Pleasing your mate can be so rewarding and satisfying. It sends healthy messages of love and intimacy that truly count.

For all of your boudoir sexcessories visit our website at Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store” Like us on Facebook  and follow us on Twitter @TheHoneyDiva. For your sensual soul listen to HoneySoul Radio every Tuesday evening on Blog Talk Radio. Live in the sensual and love in the delicious.

MAKE IT HOT: Sexy Role Play Fun 101

Remember as a child how much fun it was to play dress up, teacher, or even play doctor? Well, that fun gets better and still exist as we get older. Role playing is essential in any long term relationship. It has the capability to wake up the humdrum of any boring and complacent relationship. Get your love life out of that blue funk and get in character and dress it up with some fun and flirty costumes or just a few sexcessories that’s sure to bring the magic back into the bedroom. Adopt a new name or take on a new persona for the duration of the fantasy.  Use role play as a way to find out what your partner finds sexy or fantasizes about.  Role playing is a great way for you to find out new information about your lover, and open up the doors of communication.

Many couples, particularly those who have been together for a long time, those who are sexually adventurous, or those who simply need a little something extra to get aroused, finding sexy foreplay games to play is a common practice. As long as both people are in agreement about the fantasy to be played out this type of sexual roleplay is actually quite healthy and beneficial to the relationship. It allows a deeper level of understanding to develop between the two of you, and it also increases communication and even laughter. Remember, remain in character but not too rigid. Don’t take them completely seriously. Be able to “break” character and laugh at one another or at yourself.  This can be a great experience for individuals who have always taken sex as a very serious way to show one’s love to another. It is also possible for sex to be a fun and enriching experience that draws you two closer together.

Practicing roleplaying or anything that makes the sex new and exciting for you and your lover are good foreplay techniques, and are sure to rekindle love and fun. Seeking out sexy foreplay games to play and practicing good foreplay techniques keep the spark – both the sexual spark and the romantic spark – alive in the relationship. If one is a little weary of trying sexual roleplay games you should simply think of it as playing a childish game with a fun and sexy twist.

Need a little help getting a creative start? Well, we have an idea  “Dress It Up -Fantasy Role Play Game”  lets you unlock 57 secret scenarios and act them out. Have you been naughty and need to be handcuffed by a big strong policeman? Maybe you’ll be a freelance photographer paid to photograph a beautiful woman for a magazine spread. Get in character and shed your inhibitions along with your clothes.  Be sure to check out our selection of sexy fantasy fun wear. They’re fun to put on and even more fun to take off.

For all of your boudoir sexcessories visit our website at Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store” Like us on Facebook  and follow us on Twitter @TheHoneyDiva  For your sensual soul listen to HoneySoul Radio every Tuesday evening on Blog Talk Radio. Live in the sensual and love in the delicious.



 Anal sex is a risky subject among many women. The fear and the pain associated with the first time still resonates in our memory as a bad experience. From that moment we vowed never to do it again. We agreed with ourselves that we didn’t like it, and it just wasn’t for us. First of all ladies we went about it all wrong. No one ever told us that women control that entire experience from beginning to end. We automatically trusted that our partners knew what they were doing. I mean after all that’s what he said…”Baby, I got it. Just relax…I know what I’m doing.” As he stands behind you and slathers his saliva on his penis. We remember the moment all to well. Well, ladies here are some tips that can bring you to the point of anal pleasure and anal eroticism comfortably…

Anal Sex Tip #1  Just relax. Do whatever you need to do to enhance relaxation. Drink a glass a wine. Get a relaxing massage or take a warm bubble bath. I’m sure your lover wouldn’t mine pouring the wine, running the bath, or giving you a body massage. Especially if he knows what’s coming next.

Anal Sex Tip #2  You have to envision yourself having a pleasurable experience. Think happy thoughts. See yourself as a sexual goddess willing to go on an adventure for sexual satisfaction. This helps to eliminate fear and bring a level of comfort.

Anal Sex Tip #3  Communicate with your lover that you need him to take his time and go slow. Tell him don’t rush the process. So, be patient…We are not porn stars! We are regular woman. Tell him everything you need him to do for you to feel comfortable while having your anal sex experience. Once again he will do just what you ask of him. Tell him slow and easy.

Anal Sex Tip #4  Stimulation. You have to be turn on and turned up. A good amount of foreplay is always a great start. Have him do and say all of those nasty things you like him to do and say during sex. Have him touch all of those magical spots you need him to touch to keep you aroused.  Using a small anal toy is a great way to warm up. Always use an anal toy with a stopper so it doesn’t go to far in the anal cavity. The anal muscles are strong and it’s not a good look going into the ER at 3 a.m. Using a silver bullet to stimulate your clitoris is a wonderful sensation. Clitoral stimlation can bring blood flow to your pelvic region and it works to distract you from your anxiety.

Anal Sex Tip #5  Proper lubrication is a must. Spit, baby oil, lotion, cooking oil etc… are not proper methods of lubrication. You can’t ever have too much lube when he’s getting the booty. Lubricate his penis librally and around your anal area for a smoother insertion.  Silicone lube is the best. We recommend Wet Platinum Lubrication

Anal Sex Tip #6  Proper anal penetration. We women have to control the penetration – not them. We move onto his penis. He should never be the one creating the insertion. Women controls all of the insertion and penetration. He just needs to stand there until you tell him what to do. She needs to sort of PUSH down as she moves onto the penis. Pushing helps relax the muscle set in the anus and opens it up a bit more to allow for penetration. No going wild or crazy humping with your female partner. Unless she wants you to, of course.  If anything hurts – STOP.  Anal penetration should not hurt.

With all of these things in place you should be on your way to enjoying the good feeling of anal eroticism. Yes, ladies we do have anal orgasms. (smile) They run from our clitoris to all of our erogenous zones. The anus has 6,000 nerve endings and there can be lots of pleasure from that area of the body. It definitely depends on how much you are aroused and mental stimulation as well. If  you want to learn more about this topic,  Look up Tristan Taormino and her website www.puckerup.com on google. She is the queen of “anal sex” education. We also carry her book on “The Ultimate Anal Sex Guide for Women” at Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store.”

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