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Your Orgasm Is Your Responsibility! Say What?

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How many women and men feel it’s alright to self pleasure (masturbate) while in a relationship? Or do you feel your sexual pleasure is the full responsibility of your lover? Did you know you are 90% responsible for your orgasm? Yes, and the other 10% is based on attraction, visual aesthetics, environment and other stimulating factors.

I’ve come to terms with my pleasure being my responsibility with or without my lover.  It’s my orgasm and I own it!  Now, I do enjoy our intimacy, and the warmth of his body, and every stimulating touch and deep stroke. Yes, I do, and because I do I relieve him of always having to be available to my pleasure, and allow him time to restore himself for those times I need and crave him the most, which is often enough. Plus, self pleasure is just oh so healthy, and a form of self love that I can’t deny myself the opportunity, nor the pleasure to touch myself, and to enjoy and experience all of me in full orgasmic abundance.  I would hate to put all of the responsibility of my orgasm on my lover. I want no pressure on his part when it comes to pleasing me! It can be quite overwhelming, and extremely pressing on the relationship as a whole, depending on your lover for your total orgasmic sensations. I want him to desire me, because his need for me has arisen from the deep recesses of his soul, and his scrotum, not because he feels obligated to do me, because it’s his duty, or my right. Hell, to the naw! 

Finding pleasure and joy with myself is a great way to celebrate me, and feed myself, and build my love arsenal in order to have some more good lovin’ to share. Sexually stimulating and pleasuring myself opens me up to new feelings of desire, and awakens my sexual energy, my joy, my fantasy and my creativity. I utilize my self pleasure as a sex magic ritual. Breathing, and meditating. Visualizing a higher love. Releasing moans of oooh’s, om’s and ahhh’s while speaking to the lover in me. Calling forth the love I deserve and desire in building our relationship forward. It’s a great way to reaffirm my love for myself, and my role as a desirable woman. It’s confirmation that I’m alive and a sensual, loving and sexual being, FULL of juicy goodness in the center of my knowing, in the center of my sweet spot. Don’t deny your pleasures. Self pleasure creates access to a whole new world available to you. It’s opens portals to your abundance, and increases your love bank giving you more than enough to share as your pleasure cup runneth over. You and your lover can let go of your inhibitions, and experience multiple orgasmic sensations that reach a higher level of awareness with no shame, no guilt, just intimacy, and ecstasy. Raise some pressure up off your relationship. Touch yourself, and think about how beautiful you are in the moment. There’s love, healing  and expansion there. Men know this! It’s an unwritten rule. They believe in stroking themselves when we aren’t around ladies, and we should too!

Tracey R. Bryant is a sensual woman, lover, Mother and G-Mama known as “The Honey Diva”. She is a Self Love and Sensual Empowerment Coach, of Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store. and Feminine Health and Womb Wellness Practitioner of Sensual Honey Feminine Wellness . She loves all things feminine and sensual and she believes that feminine wellness, and creativity resides in the healing and balance of the Divine Feminine, “the Womb.” She is the hostess of HoneySoul Radio  a Love, Sex and Soul online radio show. She can be contacted at thehoneydiva1@gmail.com

Know Thyself: To My Own Self Be True

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I’ve had women come to me and ask, “Aren’t you lonely because you’re not in a relationship?” It puzzles me why people would feel because I’m alone, that I’m lonely. Believe me, I’m far from it. I have relationships on every level with men who are fortifying and stimulating without the partnership, the marriage, or the drama. Many women think because I’m “The Honey Diva” , a sexual empowerment coach, and love connoisseur that assist women on how to create and increase their sexual pleasure that I must have a man; better yet that I must be with a man to solidify, validate and justify my sexual teachings of female pleasure and empowerment. But, truth be told I’m so good at loving me, all of me, loving me up and down, inside and out in every way that I can right now, that I’m the only one that can do it this good. I’m in love with the exploration of ME. I learned a while ago that the average relationship isn’t for me. It’s not always an easy task to meet a man who is secure enough within himself to love, and have a relationship with me, especially in my line of work. It takes a man who knows his power, and potential and is self aware in his masculinity, as well as his femininity to understand my passion and purpose. Some may be able to tolerate it, but only for a while before he demands I change.

Some men find my sexuality, freedom, empowerment, and my voice very sexy, and supportive to their image and their ego’s however I’ve been told by a few that I’m too intense, and too sophisticated. If I was seeking validation that would have made me feel inadequate. But, my self worth won’t allow it. However, every woman loves the acceptance of a man. His sacred masculine energy brings us balance and supports our feminine nature, and our roles as women. We do depend on them for this support and encouragement.

It’s my passion to assist women in recognizing and developing their self worth, and being more than enough, and loving ourselves holistically; mind, body and soul, and it’s the very thing that some of my Sista’s use against me. Some women suspect because I’m not married, or in a committed relationship I’m not worthy to teach about the sexual arts, or how to enhance your relationship. However, the first thing that enhances any love relationship is self love. You have to have some to give some, and to get some in return.  My work is to assist women in enhancing self love, sexual pleasure and to identify, awaken and restore your personal power, sexual magnetism, and to recognize your pussy potential.  I’ve experienced intimate conversations with some very beautiful, prestigious, scholarly men who speak highly of the feminine energy and it’s Universal principle, tantra and sexual healing.  As free, and charming as some of these men are the cultural and social view of how men are conditioned to perceive women as sexual objects, versus sexual beings, and inferior to masculine energy is still very pervasive within their psyche, beliefs, values and characteristics. 

Out of frustration I’ve asked myself, “Why does my being alone, and not in a committed relationship, or in a marriage constitutes that I’m lonely, and what does that belief say about us as women when we think that way of one another? I’m supposed to be desperate because I don’t choose to be in a relationship that doesn’t nourish and fortify my essence, or my soul, just for the sake of saying I’m not alone, and “I have a man?”

That’s some old Betty Wright type shit! “A piece of man is better than no man at all.” No disrespect to “Betty Wright” or the Blues. We can learn a lot from the Blues. 

All that is superficial, and on the surface. It’s societies way of dictating to women that we are not normal if we aren’t in a committed relationship. I have to ask myself, “How committed is it if I’m not living and loving to my FULLEST feminine potential with a masculine partner that doesn’t inspire this elevation?” That means I’m no longer true to myself. I’ve come to the conclusion that I may not be the marrying type, at least not in the ways and the laws of this land.

I’ve discovered that most marriages start out in love, and then become about possession, obligation, and the ownership of the person, including their thoughts, actions and deeds. I don’t desire to have a man that I’m loving organically and holistically with my mind, body and soul as my mere possession, and vice versa. I desire something that transcends gravity and elevates beyond the 3rd dimension. I desire vulnerability, integrity, movement, sexual intensity, frequency, progression, elevation, expansion, spirituality, prosperity and surrender. Most people aren’t working on that level of manifesting LOVE, performance and companionship. I am self aware, not to be confused with being self absorbed. I know and recognize that I AM feminine energy personified, in physical form. I am fertile, creative, attractive and ever abundant. I am POWERFUL and I am the most magnetic energy on the planet and in the Universe. Why would I settle for anything less than who I am?

I LOVE men. Oooh, I love my Brotha’s. They are sexy, beautiful, smart, funny, loving, strong, protective, and that masculine swagger is oh, so fine! I love my natural ability to influence, build, entice, feed and draw them to me. That makes him ever so sexy and even more beautiful. However, in sharing myself with him I won’t reduce myself nor my desire of fulfillment, or lower my voice, nor will I cool off my pussy. My pussy is HOT, juicy, soft, wet, supple and ravenous and her dexterity needs and wants what it wants! I am the whole package, and I’m working on my issues. I’m constantly improving. So, yes I deserve the same and more. My dear Sista you do too!

Take your time of solitude to work on loving you, and becoming fully self aware, working through your issues of past hurts, and releasing old relationship wounds. Yes, ladies this means self pleasure – masturbate. Know what it is you desire physically, emotionally, spiritually and sexually. Romance your DAMN self! This is the only way you are going to get acquainted with you. If you look at yourself as lonely because you don’t have a mate that’s a sign of desperation, and men who prey on lonely women can smell it from a mile away. As you grow in your self awareness, and begin romancing and having a love affair with yourself your standards will increase, and the drama will cease. You will begin to attract a different quality of men. Men who want to provide, and protect you. Men who will profess their love to you and for you.

When we connect I will know him because I will transform into a new level of me, with him. I will be the yin to his yang, the fire to his ice, his inspiration to his thought, his Bonnie to his Clyde, the vision to his provision. I will be all encompassing WOMAN, and through this compliment and sacred balance I will be a better, more loving, and passionate feminine sexual being, discovering more of me in this extension of love. Yes, I’m sophisticated, intense, soft, bold, voluptuous, intelligent, knowledgeable, loving, sensual, compassionate and sharp. However, I am far from being alone especially when I know exactly what it is I deserve. Now, chew on that for a minute and tell me how it taste. “Know Thyself!”  To your own self  BE true.

For sensual and feminine Womb wellness visit Sensual Honey Feminine Wellness a new feminine, and tranquil spa experience providing women with an exclusive experience in feminine care, detox, and pampering to the womb through Herbal Infused Yoni Steaming. It’s self love at it’s best.

When creating that intimate rendezvous for self pleasure Honey Luv has all of your self  love sexcessories. Visit our website at  Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store” or contact us at 337.944.9131 Like us on Facebook  and follow us on Twitter @TheHoneyDiva. For your sensual soul listen to our radio show on Tuesday evenings at 9 pm CST on HoneySoul Radio on Blog Talk Radio.  Regardless to relationship status always, “Live in the sensual and LOVE in the Delicious.”

The Honey Diva

♥ YONI EXERCISE & AFFIRMATIONS ♥

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Say these affirmations out loud while holding your hand tenderly over your Yoni. Let’s Heal. 

I am a sensual, sexual, orgasmic being. 
My womb is the center of my creation.
My Yoni is a beautifully moist happy village. 
I will serve her kindly.
I will forgive myself for any hurt I have caused her.
I will forgive myself for my choices that go against her health.
I will not run and hide from her.
She is the source of who I am.
I will take a mirror and reflect her goodness back to me.
I will give her daily affirmations of her beauty and wisdom.
I will not be afraid.
I will expose my higher self.
I will exercise a higher love and honor my Sacred space.

The Honey Diva

For sensual and feminine Womb wellness visit Sensual Honey Feminine Wellness a new feminine, and tranquil spa experience. We are committed to providing women with an exclusive experience in feminine care, and pampering to the Womb and Yoni for health, wellness, and feminine rejuvenation.  

Remember when creating that intimate rendezvous with your lover Honey Luv has all of your boudoir sexcessories. Visit our website at  Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store” or contact us at 337.944.9131 Like us on Facebook  and follow us on Twitter @TheHoneyDiva. For your sensual soul listen to our radio show on Tuesday evenings at 9 pm CST on HoneySoul Radio on Blog Talk Radio.  Remember to “Live in the sensual and LOVE in the Delicious.”

NATURAL HEALING CONJURE FOR HORMONAL IMBALANCE

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Many women have come to me and are experiencing hormonal imbalance that is causing physical, emotional and premenstrual pain and issues. Here are some conjure methods and tips to reverse your imbalance, and your irritability. 

1.) Changing your diet. Eating more raw foods such as fruits and vegetables, and removing processed foods is the first thing. A light work out such as walking and lifting light weights for toning to relieve stress. 

2.) Go to the health food store and get “Now” products (that’s the brand) of calcium, vitamin B6 and magnesium and take as labeled on the bottle. Also, massage your womb area days before your moon cycle. Drink tea of herbs used to eliminate excess fluid like dandelion, parsley, and nettle. I love this tea’s ability to help with that “time of the month” and go with the flow. Look for tea that says PMS on it at the health food store, or get these herbs in bulk and mix them 1 part of each. Sweeten with a tablespoon of honey. Honey will give you a boost of energy during this sluggish time.

3.) Avoid processed salt and salty foods. Salt in foods or otherwise causes bloating and water retention. Salt can make those problems of PMS worse. Avoid canned soups and vegetables, deli and processed meats, and salty condiments. I know this is hard one. It’s seems our bodies crave salt when we are on our moon cycles. Stay away!

4.) Chocolate works wonders! Dark chocolate is known to contain magnesium and mood boosting omega 3 and 6 fatty acids. Due to a monthly drop in estrogen and progesterone that happens during our moon cycles, these hormonal changes create a domino effect which results in a temporary drop in the “feel good” hormone serotonin as well as other endorphin’s. Yes, dark chocolate can give you that loving feeling and reverse irritability during our down time.

5.) Make sure to rest and relax as much as possible. Hormonal shifts can make us women lose sleep, which makes us irritable. It is important to get enough sleep to level out your moods. These are natural ways to prevent mood swings, irritability, and PMS.

6.) Light and burn a yellow candle. Yellow is a stimulating and uplifting color it’s vibration is of creativity; intelligence, confidence; movement and energy. It connects to clairvoyance, divination, wisdom, learning, imagination, and inspiration as well as the power of concentration and communication. Used in healing skin conditions as well as stomach complaints and menstrual cramps. Yellow symbolizes the element of Air. 

7.) Burn some essential oils of two drops of lemon, three drops of Clary Sage, two drops of Marjoram oil with a carrier oil of grapeseed or castor oil. These oils individually and in combination are mood enhancers. Don’t underestimate the power of scent and it’s majestic properties.

Speak loving affirmations and stop being a crabby patty. Be more gentle with yourself during this sacred time. Visit our website at  Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store” or contact us at 337.944.9131 Like us on Facebook  and follow us on Twitter @TheHoneyDiva. For your sensual soul listen to our radio show  Tuesday evening at 9pm CST on HoneySoul Radio on Blog Talk Radio. Live in the sensual and LOVE in the delicious.

  ~ The Honey Diva

The WOMBMAN: All Life Must Return

“WOMBMAN we must dance, chant, sing every time a life enters this world and leaves it. Sex, Death, Creation, Destruction and everything in between is cyclic. It comes and goes like waves. Dark and light, none of us can live without experiencing those different phases and realities. But it is in the womb of our Mother’s that we incubated and developed for 9 months. It was through her vagina that she was impregnanted and it also our gateway to the light and life. Before we can see there is an absence of lights. We must not be afraid of the dark because that is where we are buried after we pass. Back into the dark womb of our Mothers to be reborn again.” ~ Makeda Voletta

For all of your boudoir sexcessories visit our website at Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store.” Like us on Facebook  and follow us on Twitter @TheHoneyDiva. For your sensual soul listen to HoneySoul Radio every Tuesday evening on Blog Talk Radio. Live in the sensual and love in the delicious.