Category Archives: Sexual Health

Your Orgasm Is Your Responsibility! Say What?

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How many women and men feel it’s alright to self pleasure (masturbate) while in a relationship? Or do you feel your sexual pleasure is the full responsibility of your lover? Did you know you are 90% responsible for your orgasm? Yes, and the other 10% is based on attraction, visual aesthetics, environment and other stimulating factors.

I’ve come to terms with my pleasure being my responsibility with or without my lover.  It’s my orgasm and I own it!  Now, I do enjoy our intimacy, and the warmth of his body, and every stimulating touch and deep stroke. Yes, I do, and because I do I relieve him of always having to be available to my pleasure, and allow him time to restore himself for those times I need and crave him the most, which is often enough. Plus, self pleasure is just oh so healthy, and a form of self love that I can’t deny myself the opportunity, nor the pleasure to touch myself, and to enjoy and experience all of me in full orgasmic abundance.  I would hate to put all of the responsibility of my orgasm on my lover. I want no pressure on his part when it comes to pleasing me! It can be quite overwhelming, and extremely pressing on the relationship as a whole, depending on your lover for your total orgasmic sensations. I want him to desire me, because his need for me has arisen from the deep recesses of his soul, and his scrotum, not because he feels obligated to do me, because it’s his duty, or my right. Hell, to the naw! 

Finding pleasure and joy with myself is a great way to celebrate me, and feed myself, and build my love arsenal in order to have some more good lovin’ to share. Sexually stimulating and pleasuring myself opens me up to new feelings of desire, and awakens my sexual energy, my joy, my fantasy and my creativity. I utilize my self pleasure as a sex magic ritual. Breathing, and meditating. Visualizing a higher love. Releasing moans of oooh’s, om’s and ahhh’s while speaking to the lover in me. Calling forth the love I deserve and desire in building our relationship forward. It’s a great way to reaffirm my love for myself, and my role as a desirable woman. It’s confirmation that I’m alive and a sensual, loving and sexual being, FULL of juicy goodness in the center of my knowing, in the center of my sweet spot. Don’t deny your pleasures. Self pleasure creates access to a whole new world available to you. It’s opens portals to your abundance, and increases your love bank giving you more than enough to share as your pleasure cup runneth over. You and your lover can let go of your inhibitions, and experience multiple orgasmic sensations that reach a higher level of awareness with no shame, no guilt, just intimacy, and ecstasy. Raise some pressure up off your relationship. Touch yourself, and think about how beautiful you are in the moment. There’s love, healing  and expansion there. Men know this! It’s an unwritten rule. They believe in stroking themselves when we aren’t around ladies, and we should too!

Tracey R. Bryant is a sensual woman, lover, Mother and G-Mama known as “The Honey Diva”. She is a Self Love and Sensual Empowerment Coach, of Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store. and Feminine Health and Womb Wellness Practitioner of Sensual Honey Feminine Wellness . She loves all things feminine and sensual and she believes that feminine wellness, and creativity resides in the healing and balance of the Divine Feminine, “the Womb.” She is the hostess of HoneySoul Radio  a Love, Sex and Soul online radio show. She can be contacted at thehoneydiva1@gmail.com

The Benefits of Sexercise

 

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Do you think of exercise as a chore? Well, try and have more sex and incorporate that sexy feel good activity and take advantage of burning calories with a “Pleasure Workout.” Count calories burned per hour and relieve unwanted stress with each enjoyable moment. Bending, stretching, crouching and squatting have never felt this good! Sexercise produces “feel good” hormones and reduces stress and  is a natural stimulator. Realize that even 30 minutes of sexercise every day will naturally release “feel good” hormones, those endorphines that are vital to feeling confident, calm, happy and sexy. 

Check out the benefits:

Licking….28 
Tickling…17

Moaning….5 per moan 

Kissing….25
Screaming….24 
Shouting….20
Begging….22
Orgasm…57
Orgasm w/Vibrator…75 

Orgasm and Speaking in tongues…. a whopping 160 calories burned. 
Sex Positions:
Man on Top….20 
Woman on Top….25
Doggy Style….40
Standing….90
Oral….40

Good, Hot Streaming Sex…up to 350 calories per hour. 

Who said Making Love isn’t good for your health? Sex does a body GOOD! Whatever your mood or sensual persuasion when creating that intimate rendezvous with that sexy someone Honey Luv has all of your boudoir sexcessories. Visit our website at Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store” Like us on Facebook  and follow us on Twitter @TheHoneyDiva. For your sensual soul listen to HoneySoul Radio every Tuesday evening on Blog Talk Radio. Live in the sensual and love in the delicious.

Sex and Meditation

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What does sex have to do with meditation you ask?

Well it is an approach that you can use to help you cope with stress, and anxiety by way of thought, contemplation, and/or reflection.  Some meditation may require the body being absolutely still while other types allow free movement of the body. One’s choice and method may be different, but the end goal and result are all the same. Quieting the mind and freeing yourself from stress by the use of quiet contemplation and mindful reflection. In short relaxation and sex.

Just think about how enjoyable sex is when you are relaxed? Free from worry, pain and guilt. Having relaxed and conscious sexual contact can enhance pleasure and encourage sexual exploration. Here are some keys to sharing sex as a form of meditation.

  • Let go of any expectations

Stop expecting something specific to happen during sex. Live in the moment and experience all of love’s intimacy and pleasure. During sex, we are so driven by the end result to climax that we may be, in effect, forcing a result. This tension  can do just the opposite and make it that much harder for you to really be true to the pleasures of sex between you and your partner.

  • Enjoy the moment

Be in the present moment. Don’t get carried away by thoughts. Don’t think about the past or the future. Live and love truly in the here and now and release all unwanted thoughts that can cause you to lose sight of truly engaging in lovemaking with your lover. Let time stand still and enjoy!

  • Become physically relaxed

Your body and your mind should be in a natural position and relaxed. Both the mind and the body should be comfortable.  Gently controlling your breathing is one way to center yourself and allowing yourself to go into an even deeper state of relaxation.

  • Be in a state of peace

Stop focusing and thinking too hard. Don’t try and control your thoughts. Turn off the inner dialogue in your head. Don’t be anxious about your performance. Allow what comes next to come naturally, and give your mind permission to go into a natural state of rest. Sex is so much more than physical performance. It is mental state and has the ability to relieve stress and transcend you and your lover into a deeper state of orgasmic bliss.

Whatever your mood or sensual persuasion when creating that intimate rendezvous with that sexy someone Honey Luv has all of your boudoir sexcessories. Visit our website at Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store” Like us on Facebook  and follow us on Twitter @TheHoneyDiva. For your sensual soul listen to HoneySoul Radio every Tuesday evening on Blog Talk Radio. Live in the sensual and love in the delicious.