Category Archives: Sexual Cleansing

Your Orgasm Is Your Responsibility! Say What?

Touch yourself

How many women and men feel it’s alright to self pleasure (masturbate) while in a relationship? Or do you feel your sexual pleasure is the full responsibility of your lover? Did you know you are 90% responsible for your orgasm? Yes, and the other 10% is based on attraction, visual aesthetics, environment and other stimulating factors.

I’ve come to terms with my pleasure being my responsibility with or without my lover.  It’s my orgasm and I own it!  Now, I do enjoy our intimacy, and the warmth of his body, and every stimulating touch and deep stroke. Yes, I do, and because I do I relieve him of always having to be available to my pleasure, and allow him time to restore himself for those times I need and crave him the most, which is often enough. Plus, self pleasure is just oh so healthy, and a form of self love that I can’t deny myself the opportunity, nor the pleasure to touch myself, and to enjoy and experience all of me in full orgasmic abundance.  I would hate to put all of the responsibility of my orgasm on my lover. I want no pressure on his part when it comes to pleasing me! It can be quite overwhelming, and extremely pressing on the relationship as a whole, depending on your lover for your total orgasmic sensations. I want him to desire me, because his need for me has arisen from the deep recesses of his soul, and his scrotum, not because he feels obligated to do me, because it’s his duty, or my right. Hell, to the naw! 

Finding pleasure and joy with myself is a great way to celebrate me, and feed myself, and build my love arsenal in order to have some more good lovin’ to share. Sexually stimulating and pleasuring myself opens me up to new feelings of desire, and awakens my sexual energy, my joy, my fantasy and my creativity. I utilize my self pleasure as a sex magic ritual. Breathing, and meditating. Visualizing a higher love. Releasing moans of oooh’s, om’s and ahhh’s while speaking to the lover in me. Calling forth the love I deserve and desire in building our relationship forward. It’s a great way to reaffirm my love for myself, and my role as a desirable woman. It’s confirmation that I’m alive and a sensual, loving and sexual being, FULL of juicy goodness in the center of my knowing, in the center of my sweet spot. Don’t deny your pleasures. Self pleasure creates access to a whole new world available to you. It’s opens portals to your abundance, and increases your love bank giving you more than enough to share as your pleasure cup runneth over. You and your lover can let go of your inhibitions, and experience multiple orgasmic sensations that reach a higher level of awareness with no shame, no guilt, just intimacy, and ecstasy. Raise some pressure up off your relationship. Touch yourself, and think about how beautiful you are in the moment. There’s love, healing  and expansion there. Men know this! It’s an unwritten rule. They believe in stroking themselves when we aren’t around ladies, and we should too!

Tracey R. Bryant is a sensual woman, lover, Mother and G-Mama known as “The Honey Diva”. She is a Self Love and Sensual Empowerment Coach, of Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store. and Feminine Health and Womb Wellness Practitioner of Sensual Honey Feminine Wellness . She loves all things feminine and sensual and she believes that feminine wellness, and creativity resides in the healing and balance of the Divine Feminine, “the Womb.” She is the hostess of HoneySoul Radio  a Love, Sex and Soul online radio show. She can be contacted at

The Healing Wisdom of Water and Your Sexual Soul

Woman taking a bath

The Elders knew what they were speaking of when they said, “Wade in the water, God’s going to trouble the water.” The old folk knew the significance and the wisdom of the water and release. Baptism is symbolic of that womb time experience and even coined as being “REBORN”. Spirit incubates and emerges from the water of the womb, and our physical bodies are formed. As we develop and are released from water we become Earth beings however always returning to our connection to water for nutrients, cleansing, hydration, purification and wisdom. Going back to the wisdom of water for purification is very important and needed, and without this relationship we will cease to exist. Water rituals keep us grounded and are necessary in removing emotional imbalance, unwanted stress, energetic and physical toxins as well as bringing feelings of renewal, peace, comfort and calm. 

Sexual energy and orgasm also generate waters. In Tantra waters from the male known as semen or Bindu, is life force waters, and from the female known as Amrita, the sweet nectar of blessed waters of immortality. Within every orgasm or sexual and spiritual energy exchange there is consciousness that contains character attributes and elements of personality. As lovers we release this energy during sexual exchange leaving deposits and imprints of ourselves within the deepest recesses of our lover’s mind, body and soul. That’s why many times it’s so hard for many of us to shake an ex lover who may have been toxic and unhealthy. Our sexual energy exchange goes deep into the core of our being, and is transmitted through the spirit and water. However, water in combination with intent, prayer, meditation, crystals and essential oils, is a great method for releasing old unwanted sexual energy in that it deals with clearing, cleansing and removing sexual blockage, and toxic residual energy of past lovers from our three lower houses known as our grounding chakras. The Root Chakra houses our survival energy, and deals with our ability to feel safe and secure. The Sacral Chakra houses our sexual energy, our intuition and our creativity. Our Solar Plexus Chakra houses our energy of emotions, appetite and our will power. Cleansing and releasing chakra blockages from these three energy centers can remove unwanted energetic memory, and increase our ability to move on, and move through unwanted stagnation and open ourselves up into healthy expansion in our other relationships, and into our blessings of purpose, and abundance.

Essential and aromatic oils of lavender, chamomile, and rose, are for grounding on a physical and emotional level, and used to release fear on a cellular level. Essential oils such as cedarwood, clary sage, patchouli, rosewood and sandalwood are typical root chakra oils, and assist in grounding our spiritual energy and bring us back to focus and clarity.

With this cleansing ritual you always want to speak your intent and give thanks to the omnipotent presence and wisdom of water. Fill your foot basin or bath tub with water and add a 1/2 cup of witch hazel, a 1/2 cup of sea salt, and 6 to 10 drops of essential oil into your foot tub our bath of fresh warm water. You can also use this ritual as a spiritual bath by immersing your whole body for purification and release. Include crystal stones such as; Quartz Crystal, and/or Red Jasper, Bloodstone, Orange Calcite or Black Obsidian to your water to heighten the vibration. Their qualities and attributes assist us to re-group our energies and dispel accumulated negative vibrations allowing for protection, clarity, balance and equilibrium within the mind, body and soul. 

Add flowers such as rose petals for added frequency. Place your feet to the water and soak. You may want to burn resin incense of Copal, Sandalwood and Myrrh, and/or burn a candle. Incense represent the element of air, and candles represent the element of fire. Now, you have all of the elements present in your healing and release. This will connect you to utilizing a dimension that is very specific to healing and grounding your mind, body and physical space. Clear your mind and tell the Universe your intent and what you need to remove from your life. Keep your feet and/or body submersed a minimum 20 or 30 minutes until you feel light as a feather. 

Remove your crystals and dump the water in the toilet and visualize flushing your worries and the residue from an ex lover, or a bad experience down the drain. Only use your foot basin for your feet to water ritual. When removing toxins you want to be sure not to transfer the energy in other areas of your life by using the basin for additional purposes. Add a few drops of essential oil to your body and/or foot cream and massage lovingly and tell yourself positive affirmations. 

Continue to do this water ritual as many times as you like to remain and stay grounded. Just remember to remove and detox negativity regularly. Speak life into yourself and your environment. Get rid of old clothes, photos and personal effects that keep you contained mentally and emotionally by the power of thought. Reverse unhealthy messages that block your health and emotional wellness. Live, breathe and laugh in your juicy flow, and expect to receive your breakthrough.  

For sensual and feminine Womb wellness visit Sensual Honey Feminine Wellness a new feminine, and tranquil spa experience providing women with an exclusive experience in feminine care, detox, and pampering to the womb through Herbal Infused Yoni Steaming, Womb Massage, Crystal Foot Baths & Detox, Crystal Energy Healing and Clearing, and Kemetic Reiki. We support womb health,  education, wellness, and feminine rejuvenation.  

Remember when creating that intimate rendezvous with your lover Honey Luv has all of your boudoir sexcessories. Visit our website at  Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store” or contact us at 337.944.9131 Like us on Facebook  and follow us on Twitter @TheHoneyDiva. For your sensual soul listen to our radio show on Tuesday evenings at 9 pm CST on HoneySoul Radio on Blog Talk Radio.  Remember to “Live in the sensual and LOVE in the Delicious.”

~ The Honey Diva