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Kama Sutra: Sexual Aids & Dildos… WHAT?

Kama Sutra

Lovers in ancient times had a responsibility one to another for sexual satisfaction, and lovemaking. In one of the world’s oldest sexual manuals the Kama Sutra, (“Kama” meaning love and desire, and “Sutra” meaning threading) it is said that lovemaking is a sacred duty between a man and a woman. It was taught within the natures of love, and a deep part of the culture, and as a way of life. Unlike what we are taught in today’s society. We are conditioned to feel shame, guilt and insecurity because of our natural sexual progression and sexual desire.

SensualFoodieChaiTeaSpices-1024x622During the 3rd century there was no such thing as an under orgasmic woman. A husband who was unable to satisfy his lover or his wife was to make every effort to remedy the situation. For a man’s inability to satisfy his wife was not part of the culture, and he must make every provision necessary that would either obtain his erection or encourage his wife’s sexual pleasure. Sages, and/or medicine men and women would prepare elixirs and aphrodisiacs with foods, herbs, and spice mixtures. Some consisted of goats milk, fennel, licorice, pumpkin seeds, cinnamon, almonds, honey, and ghee to strengthen the unfortunate man’s man muscle, and stimulate his sexual desire. If these elixirs weren’t bringing about the desired sexual results in a timely manner he was to remedy the sexually unfortunate situation with foreplay, oral sex or an artificial penis. Yes, you heard it right, a DILDO! He was to skillfully use an artificial penis to give sexual pleasure to his wife. This verse gives instruction to an artificial penis to be used to bring women to orgasmic delight and sexual satisfaction.

Gold Vibrator 2“The man who is utterly unable to achieve an erection should pleasure his wife/lover with a phallus crafted from materials like gold, silver, copper, iron, ivory or horn. The artificial phallus should be shaped to your natural proportions. It will be more arousing for the lady if the outside is studded with a profusion of large, smooth nodules” ( Kama Sutra: Part 7, Chapter 1, Sutras 4–8).

Ooooh, it sounds like these studs and nodules was meant for more vaginal stimulation and arousal upon entry and during penetration. Oh my! Who knew? Here we thought we were sexually advanced in the art of sexual novelties and stimulation, and ancient lovers created methods , means and artifacts to keep a woman happy and sexually satisfied in ancient times!

Black IntimacyFor those you who are sexually frustrated because of your belief that using sexual aids is prohibited. Give yourself permission to experience sexual aids, sexual pleasure, and it’s wonderful release with sexual innovation, and intervention. Don’t cheat yourself, treat yourself with a wonderful dong, dildo, and/or vibrator that can make your love life increase in sexual happiness, and orgasmic pleasure. Men love your woman enough to move pass your ego and let her become sexually satisfied until your beautiful man muscle is putting in work at optimal performance. Remember, a happy wife means a happy life!

When creating that intimate rendezvous with your lover Honey Luv has all of your boudoir sexcessories.  Visit our website at  Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store” or contact us at 337.944.9131 Like us on Facebook  and follow us on Twitter @TheHoneyDiva. For your sensual soul listen to our radio show on Tuesday evenings at 9 pm CST on HoneySoul Radio on Blog Talk Radio.  Remember to “Live in the sensual and LOVE in the Delicious.”

The Honey Diva

Love, Money, Milk and Honey

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I hear so many women say they won’t or don’t want to accept a man’s money, under any circumstance. I have heard them say that they don’t feel right accepting money from a man because they feel as though they are prostituting themselves when they have laid down with him, and he offers to pay a bill, or an expense, or ask her how he may provide for her with something she needs or wants. Some women get offended when a  man states his desire to gift her with anything that holds any monetary value. Women have told me they feel cheap, and they don’t need a man to provide for them. That they can provide for themselves. These are things that make me go, “Hmmm!” I raise an eyebrow or two. “Why do I raise an eyebrow you ask?” Because I also hear these same women complain about there being no good men. 

I don’t care what anyone says a man having money is super sexy! Knowing how to double it up and triple stack it is such a major turn on. Being broke isn’t pretty or attractive at anytime. In order for our union to be successful, expand and grow we have to be willing to receive. 

We attract what we think and what we feel. If we think and feel there are no good men, that is what we will attract. We will attract cheap, insensitive, self-centered men, who can give a rat’s ass if we eat, if we keep our your lights on, have gas in our car, if our car note is paid, if we get to work or not, or make it to class on time, if we need toilet paper, or if we have pampered ourselves lately, and if we are feeling comfortable or not. I could go on and on. However, I personally have no problem sharing my time, space and energy with a man who loves to provide for me. A man who feels I am deserving of his money. These qualities get me all hot and bothered. He has found one very important way to stimulate my succulent center. I am full of sexual energy, and ready to reward him with all my moist, juicy goodness.

man-giving-woman-money 1A man sharing his money to honor what he feels, and who he believes to be a deserving woman is a man not only sharing his money but his wealth. I’m not just speaking of monetary wealth. I’m talking about his view of who you are in connection to his wealth, to his assets, his substance and his self-worth. It’s much deeper than the surface of what we think money represents. It has to do with his mentality, and his state of mind about what he feels he deserves when it comes to you, and what he feels you deserve when it comes to him. He has included you in his wealthy place. A real man knows that when his woman is happy she will be at her greatest potential. At her greatest potential she will inspire him and give him what he needs to develop, grow and expand. A man who is willing to share his money with you is a man who is honoring his manhood in connection to who you are as a woman, who you are as a nurturer, and your feminine ability to bring out the best in him, how you influence, and inspire him, how you make him feel when he is with you, and even how your energy makes him feel when you’re not with him. He is ultimately honoring you.

Let’s be clear! This inspiration that I speak of is stimulated through SEX! Yes, ladies I know what many of you are thinking,  “Sex and money is not something that should be exchanged. There isn’t any amount of money that equates to my pussy. It’s priceless!”

I agree! My love and my body are priceless and no amount of money can match it’s worth. This is why when a man has a serious thing for YOU he will continuously share his money, and his wealth in a variety of ways over and again. Because in his spirit that man knows he is honoring you through his worth, and a man’s worth is connected to his wallet, and his means of providing, and proving his affections. Men want SEX, support, love, encouragement and reassurance, and most of the time in that order. We have been misinformed about sex and money. “Sex is the GREAT motivator. Men will move mountains.” Quote me as saying that. It’s Yin and Yang. Male and Female. It’s Universal Law, Cosmic Order and Divine Principle. What we know to be Sacred Masculine energy releases, gives out and is action oriented, with a desire to manifest, and produce. Divine Feminine energy receives, absorbs, nurtures, develops and nourishes with a desire to multiply, and increase in and of itself, giving birth whether that be an idea, a vision, a child or our man. Yes, Ladies we are constantly using our feminine energy to rebirth our men.

man giving a woman a giftThe #1 thing we women want is SECURITY. “Security equals money.” Think about it! We want to know that we don’t have to worry about the eviction or foreclosure notice being stuck on the door next month, or that our home and place of refuge, or our comfort is being threatened.  As women most of us need to feel secure to engage in sex with a man, especially if we are contemplating having a relationship. Security brings comfort, and security and comfort brings about more sex. More great sex! When you are happy and secure you desire to have sex all the time. We stay hot and ready! Security and comfort enhances romance, happiness and pleasure. We create and experience BOMB orgasms when we feel secure. Rather it’s financial, emotional, or mental. Security equates stability. We need are men to be stable. Men need sex to thrive. . 

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A man without money can’t support his role in providing, protecting nor securing his position as THE MAN, and we can’t expect him to contribute his part if we won’t accept his money. A Real Man desires to give, and provide for the woman he professes he loves, and if he doesn’t have it he’s thinking of a means of getting it, because she is his inspiration. Just think about how happy the two of you are when you are not stressing about money issues? Ladies, don’t ever become so independent that you won’t allow a man to provide, or do for you. Even if you do have it for yourself, allow him his rightful place in being a MAN. Allow him the room to do what he is born to do. Ladies, a real man wants to spoil YOU!  Accept him in all of his generosity. Let him play his position. We can eliminate many bad, drama filled relationships if we step our game up,  increase our self worth and recognize our pussy potential. 

I feel there is no bigger turn OFF then a man having money and not releasing it, especially if he desires to release his semen all inside my hot sugar walls. I would certainly play myself small if I were to do without, and Mister is enjoying all of my creamy essence while depositing his DNA.  As the saying goes, “No romance without finance.” This is true. There is nothing good that’s going to come out of any relationship between a man and a woman if he is not responsible for his portion of the supervision. 

When it’s all said and done we can LOVE his dirty drawers, but love doesn’t keep the lights on. Love and money are a great combination. Love, SEX and money now that’s the ULTIMATE collabo! Anything is possible and can be done when in love, while enjoying the binding commitment of two souls experiencing orgasm, and working from a space of abundance. The KINGDOM & QUEENDOM of Heaven is at hand. Balance is key. Without money, there’s no milk and honey. Ladies, let him adore you. 

Want more of this “Love, Sex and Money” wisdom listen to HoneySoul Radio “Sex Love & Prosperity” with Rev. Goddess Charmaine. We discuss Sexual Energy Flow, Abundance, Prosperity, Sexual Transmutation, Wealth, and how to change our limited thinking about money. ~ The Honey Diva 

Tracey R. Bryant also known as “The Honey Diva” is a Romance Specialist, a Self Love and Sensual Empowerment Coach, Holistic Sexual Health, Yoni Steam and Kemetic Reiki Practitioner, Womb Wellness, and Sex Educator. She is the owner of Sensual Honey Feminine Wellness – a new feminine and tranquil spa experience. She is also the owner of Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store.” A sensual empowerment boutique that promotes romance, sensual and sexual health and wellness to women and couples. She is the hostess of HoneySoul Radio a Love, Sex and Relationship online radio show. She can be contacted at honeysweetness1@gmail.com

Condoms 101: Safe Sex is Great Sex

 

 By: Janelle Whye ~ HIV & AIDS Educator

Condoms are used to make sex safer. Condoms can protect you during contact between the penis, mouth, vagina, or rectum. Condoms won’t protect you from HIV or other infections unless you use them correctly. They come in many forms: latex, non-latex, polyurethane (for those allergic to latex), polyisoprene (synthetic latex for those with latex allergies), lambskin, female, textured, lubricated, flavored, novelty and a variety of colors and sizes.

Novelty condoms are cute, fun and tasty but should not be used for contraception or to prevent STDS/STIs(sexually transmitted diseases/sexually transmitted infections) nor for anal or oral sex, thay are just cute!! They should not be used for safe sex as the manufacturers may not have gone through the requirements of the regulatory process required to label condoms safe for contraception and STD reduction (There are strict standards required for this process).

Use unlubricated and /or flavored condoms for oral sex (most lubricants taste awful). Flavored condoms or dental dams are suggested for safer oral sex. Some flavored condoms may be rated safe for oral sex but most are considered novelty items, check the box to be safe. 

Check the expiration date. Don’t use outdated condoms. Store condoms away from extreme heat, cold, or friction. Do not keep them in a wallet or a car glove compartment. Don’t open a condom package with your teeth. Be careful that your fingernails or jewelry don’t tear the condom. Body jewelry in or around your penis or vagina might also tear a condom. Remember, to never use the same condom from anal to vaginal penetration, and always use a water-based lubricant with latex condoms, not oil or silicone-based. The oils in Crisco, butter, baby oil, Vaseline, cocoa butter or cold cream will make latex fall apart, and we don’t want that.

Remember, safe sex is great sex! Whatever your mood or sensual persuasion when creating that intimate rendezvous with that sexy someone Honey Luv has all of your boudoir sexcessories. Visit our website at Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store” Like us on Facebook  and follow us on Twitter @TheHoneyDiva. For your sensual soul listen to HoneySoul Radio every Tuesday evening on Blog Talk Radio. Live in the sensual and love in the delicious.

FOREPLAY: Get More Play!

Foreplay is not just physical. Good foreplay is letting go of inhibitions that can keep you from enjoying yourself and your lover. Feeling good about yourself and your feelings will give you the confidence you need to arrive at sensual and sexual pleasure. Creating your space and environment ahead of time with sexy lingerie, a bubble bath, soft music, candles, and aromatic or tasty love oils will give you more control when the time comes to be sensually aroused. When you want to enhance a sacred union with a sexy and romantic mood the sense of smell (aromatic stimulation), touch (cuddling & massage), taste (kissing & oral stimulation), sight (sexy lingerie), and sound (music) are all participants in you and your lover having a pleasurable erotic experience.
Men may not need foreplay to have sex. Hell, many guys are good to go after just a gust of wind. But a new study proves that guys ache for a little pre-sex action. However, most women have never learned this key lust lesson.  Research shows that men are as interested in foreplay as women are and that they want more than they’re having.  The reason is simple. Men appreciate foreplay for the same reasons women do — it feels good physically, so the common consensus that men like it fast and furious is only a myth. But now that you’re clued into this covert carnal craving, you can give him the bedroom buildup he’s jonesin’ for. Here are some  foreplay for him tips.

 Kiss Him Hard

Men like intense, down and dirty, rough and raw kissing. Men are turned on by women who are confident and passionate while kissing. Make it an all over body experience.

Put your whole body into the act of making out, says Ava Cadell, Ph.D., author of Stock Market Orgasm. “The more body parts involved, the more intense the experience.” Her formula for an earthshaking smacker he’ll never forget: Cradle his face with one hand and grab his butt with the other while you simultaneously press your breasts and pelvis against him.

Tantalize All of His Senses

Too often, touch is the only sense that takes center stage during pre-intercourse play. But to graduate from basic to mind-blowing foreplay, you have to incorporate all of his passion receptors. Every type of sensory stimulation — the sight of a woman’s body, her whispers and the smell of her skin activates parts of the brain responsible for sexual arousal. Create a combination that treats several senses at the same time. This is the key to a beyond-divine buildup, especially for men. Other ways to make foreplay a full-body experience: Leave the lights on and listen to an extra-sexy CD, or dim the lights and give him a sexy lapdance, take a shower together by the light of scented candles, or drizzle each other with champagne and lick it off as it fizzes on your skin. These are sure fire ways to keep each of your super aroused.

Take Charge

In bed, guys are often so focused on pleasing their partners that they don’t get to bask in being a sex object. By taking the reins, “not only does it show him that you’re into the action as much as he is, but it also feels great to him to have somebody concentrating on his pleasure,” says Dr. Ava Cadell. You know the feeling, right? So, call some shots in the sack Ms. Thang. For instance, if he makes a move to head down below, pull him back up and instead give him the oral affection he deserves.

Bring Him to the Brink

Once you’ve gotten him to a combustible point, he’ll be begging to get to the main event. Ignore him. It’s a guaranteed way to drive him wild with horny, and amplify his orgasm later. The more someone anticipates sex, the more aroused they get, and therefore, the intensity of their sexual experience increases. For example, “almost oral sex” Head down south, get real close and then pass by with just a hot breath. By the time you finally put your mouth on him, it feels so good that he will almost cry with relief. We promise he’ll be begging for mercy.

Let’s not forget the after play ladies. It is just as important. Stroke his hair gently while in his arms. Whisper words of love softly in his ear. Kiss his neck gently. Stroke him tenderly while he lies in your arms and leave a love note in the bathroom. Let him know that you enjoyed him fully. Pleasing your mate can be so rewarding and satisfying. It sends healthy messages of love and intimacy that truly count.

For all of your boudoir sexcessories visit our website at Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store” Like us on Facebook  and follow us on Twitter @TheHoneyDiva. For your sensual soul listen to HoneySoul Radio every Tuesday evening on Blog Talk Radio. Live in the sensual and love in the delicious.

SACRAL CHAKRA: Your Orgasmic Creative Energy

Sexual Energy

Sexual Energy is creative energy. It is the life force of all things manifest in the universe. Your imagination is made up of creative energy.  The Sex Sacral Chakra and her energy bring  love, sensuality, enthusiasm, creativity, curiosity, intuition, self worth, and personality to our beings.  As children we are very in touch with this energy and our Sacral Chakra, and are in fact sensual beings. We are extremely creative, imaginative, and loving. As children we love to touch everything, play, befriend others and to hug those we love. We were free in our self expression and loved giving and receiving love from others.  In Western society not long after the age of 6 comes socialization, and that loving, playful, free spirit is no longer nurtured or accepted among our culture. It is a part of our childhood development. We are taught that sex is nasty and sexual guilt and shame blocks our ability to experience friendly enthusiasm, conscious creativity, sexual freedom and fullness of  their enjoyments.

Where Is The Vortex of This Creative Energy Located?

Well, the Sex Sacral Chakra is located two inches below the navel and is rooted into the spine. It’s known as the second chakra is often referred to as the belly or sacral chakra. It governs our emotions, our sense of self-worth, our confidence with ourselves and with our individual creativity, and it also governs our ability to relate to others in an open and friendly manner. Proper balance of this chakra means the ability to flow with your emotions freely.  If this chakra energy is blocked you may feel an emotional overload, very manipulative, obsessed with thoughts of sex, sexual dysfunction and/or a lack physical energy. 

It’s Represented By The Color Orange 

This chakra  is vibrant and highly charged. It stimulates feelings of renewal. It’s energy is represented by the color orange. Orange is a fun color and can make you feel quite playful. Add some orange accessories to your ensemble and add a flair of joy and playfulness. Also, adding a touch of orange to your color scheme in your sacred bed chamber (bedroom) can actually open up feelings of mindfulness and help to create positive sexual energy while getting your love making on.

Sacred Orgasm

The energy of a full body orgasm also known as a sacred orgasm comes from the bodies center of the sex sacral chakra. This energy rises up and starts with a tingling sensation within the hands and the feet. It comes up through all seven chakras as a pulling sensation up through the stomach, the chest and up to the mind through the third eye and crown chakra. This sacred sexual energy then releases itself.  This is known as a mindless state which means you are not thinking from anywhere between 2 to 5 seconds. A sacred orgasm comes in waves of tingling sensations and can last up to ten minutes. This gives me all the more reason to want to stay in-tuned to this energy. It’s elevated ecstasy at it’s highest frequency. 

Foods Are Aphrodisiacs and Increase Sexual Energy

  • Sweet Fruits: Melons, mangos, strawberries, passion fruit, oranges, bananas & coconut ~These are a few fruits containing natural sugar and give a natural source of high energy.
  • Honey: It was known as the food/nectar of the God’s & Goddesses in Egypt & Greece.
  • Nuts: Almonds, walnuts, cashews, pecans, sesame seeds ~Nuts were known as symbols of fertility in Rome. They have loads of B vitamins that boost sex hormones and libido.
  • Spices: Cinnamon, vanilla, carob, sweet paprika, ginger, clove & cayenne pepper ~Are just some of the spices that have full bodied rich flavors and spicy properties that heighten the senses of pleasure.

 

If you want to improve your overall sexual health and wellness get in tuned to your creative energy source. Our sex sacral chakra creates  full bodied orgasms to help us improve overall emotional, and mental health. It stimulates and enhances our creativity. It is known to help relieve depression, headaches, menstrual cramps, urinary problems, which have been known to decrease. This is such an added bonus.  Enjoy intimacy and pleasure while creating a positive flow of life energy and awaken and expand your creative force. Share orgasms and elevate your intuition and confidence all in the name of LOVE. It doesn’t get much better than that.

Learn more about Sacred Sexuality at “The Source School of Tantra” with our friends Charles Muir & Leah Alchen. They have a great article on their website   “Tantra: The Art Of Conscious Loving” by Mark Gramunt of the Yoga Journal.

Lisa Schrader has an excellent website Awakening Shakti She gives excellent insight on how to become one with your inner Goddess.  Her article on “Tantra: A Path of Love, Energy & Spirit”  is an great read for understanding the power of this sexual creative energy.

For all of your boudoir sexcessories visit our website at Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store”  Like us on Facebook  and follow us on Twitter @TheHoneyDiva. For your sensual soul listen to HoneySoul Radio every Tuesday evening on Blog Talk Radio. Live in the sensual and love in the delicious.