I’ve had women come to me and ask, “Aren’t you lonely because you’re not in a relationship?” It puzzles me why people would feel because I’m alone, that I’m lonely. Believe me, I’m far from it. I have relationships on every level with men who are fortifying and stimulating without the partnership, the marriage, or the drama. Many women think because I’m “The Honey Diva” , a sexual empowerment coach, and love connoisseur that assist women on how to create and increase their sexual pleasure that I must have a man; better yet that I must be with a man to solidify, validate and justify my sexual teachings of female pleasure and empowerment. But, truth be told I’m so good at loving me, all of me, loving me up and down, inside and out in every way that I can right now, that I’m the only one that can do it this good. I’m in love with the exploration of ME. I learned a while ago that the average relationship isn’t for me. It’s not always an easy task to meet a man who is secure enough within himself to love, and have a relationship with me, especially in my line of work. It takes a man who knows his power, and potential and is self aware in his masculinity, as well as his femininity to understand my passion and purpose. Some may be able to tolerate it, but only for a while before he demands I change.
Some men find my sexuality, freedom, empowerment, and my voice very sexy, and supportive to their image and their ego’s however I’ve been told by a few that I’m too intense, and too sophisticated. If I was seeking validation that would have made me feel inadequate. But, my self worth won’t allow it. However, every woman loves the acceptance of a man. His sacred masculine energy brings us balance and supports our feminine nature, and our roles as women. We do depend on them for this support and encouragement.
It’s my passion to assist women in recognizing and developing their self worth, and being more than enough, and loving ourselves holistically; mind, body and soul, and it’s the very thing that some of my Sista’s use against me. Some women suspect because I’m not married, or in a committed relationship I’m not worthy to teach about the sexual arts, or how to enhance your relationship. However, the first thing that enhances any love relationship is self love. You have to have some to give some, and to get some in return. My work is to assist women in enhancing self love, sexual pleasure and to identify, awaken and restore your personal power, sexual magnetism, and to recognize your pussy potential. I’ve experienced intimate conversations with some very beautiful, prestigious, scholarly men who speak highly of the feminine energy and it’s Universal principle, tantra and sexual healing. As free, and charming as some of these men are the cultural and social view of how men are conditioned to perceive women as sexual objects, versus sexual beings, and inferior to masculine energy is still very pervasive within their psyche, beliefs, values and characteristics.
Out of frustration I’ve asked myself, “Why does my being alone, and not in a committed relationship, or in a marriage constitutes that I’m lonely, and what does that belief say about us as women when we think that way of one another? I’m supposed to be desperate because I don’t choose to be in a relationship that doesn’t nourish and fortify my essence, or my soul, just for the sake of saying I’m not alone, and “I have a man?”
That’s some old Betty Wright type shit! “A piece of man is better than no man at all.” No disrespect to “Betty Wright” or the Blues. We can learn a lot from the Blues.
All that is superficial, and on the surface. It’s societies way of dictating to women that we are not normal if we aren’t in a committed relationship. I have to ask myself, “How committed is it if I’m not living and loving to my FULLEST feminine potential with a masculine partner that doesn’t inspire this elevation?” That means I’m no longer true to myself. I’ve come to the conclusion that I may not be the marrying type, at least not in the ways and the laws of this land.
I’ve discovered that most marriages start out in love, and then become about possession, obligation, and the ownership of the person, including their thoughts, actions and deeds. I don’t desire to have a man that I’m loving organically and holistically with my mind, body and soul as my mere possession, and vice versa. I desire something that transcends gravity and elevates beyond the 3rd dimension. I desire vulnerability, integrity, movement, sexual intensity, frequency, progression, elevation, expansion, spirituality, prosperity and surrender. Most people aren’t working on that level of manifesting LOVE, performance and companionship. I am self aware, not to be confused with being self absorbed. I know and recognize that I AM feminine energy personified, in physical form. I am fertile, creative, attractive and ever abundant. I am POWERFUL and I am the most magnetic energy on the planet and in the Universe. Why would I settle for anything less than who I am?
I LOVE men. Oooh, I love my Brotha’s. They are sexy, beautiful, smart, funny, loving, strong, protective, and that masculine swagger is oh, so fine! I love my natural ability to influence, build, entice, feed and draw them to me. That makes him ever so sexy and even more beautiful. However, in sharing myself with him I won’t reduce myself nor my desire of fulfillment, or lower my voice, nor will I cool off my pussy. My pussy is HOT, juicy, soft, wet, supple and ravenous and her dexterity needs and wants what it wants! I am the whole package, and I’m working on my issues. I’m constantly improving. So, yes I deserve the same and more. My dear Sista you do too!
Take your time of solitude to work on loving you, and becoming fully self aware, working through your issues of past hurts, and releasing old relationship wounds. Yes, ladies this means self pleasure – masturbate. Know what it is you desire physically, emotionally, spiritually and sexually. Romance your DAMN self! This is the only way you are going to get acquainted with you. If you look at yourself as lonely because you don’t have a mate that’s a sign of desperation, and men who prey on lonely women can smell it from a mile away. As you grow in your self awareness, and begin romancing and having a love affair with yourself your standards will increase, and the drama will cease. You will begin to attract a different quality of men. Men who want to provide, and protect you. Men who will profess their love to you and for you.
When we connect I will know him because I will transform into a new level of me, with him. I will be the yin to his yang, the fire to his ice, his inspiration to his thought, his Bonnie to his Clyde, the vision to his provision. I will be all encompassing WOMAN, and through this compliment and sacred balance I will be a better, more loving, and passionate feminine sexual being, discovering more of me in this extension of love. Yes, I’m sophisticated, intense, soft, bold, voluptuous, intelligent, knowledgeable, loving, sensual, compassionate and sharp. However, I am far from being alone especially when I know exactly what it is I deserve. Now, chew on that for a minute and tell me how it taste. “Know Thyself!” To your own self BE true.
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~ The Honey Diva