SELF LOVE & SEX MAGIC: GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT

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You can create the love and sex you desire by pleasing yourself first. When you are loving yourself in any capacity you are telling the Universe you deserve it. You are activating your value. Combine the power, and sound vibration of words and you are the Creatress of your life. Words are spells! Word fusion and their relationship with desire, ritual, and visualization, gives you the power to set your desires in motion. You can spring forth energy, and vibrate your desire into the atmosphere. You can keep your love light burning with a self love ritual that can bring your desire, passion, confidence, self image and attraction to the next level.

Speak sweet, loving, and sexy words to yourself. Start with I AM. Anytime you start a sentence with I AM you creating what you are, and what you want to BE. Write a love note to your desired lover, and be descriptive, and honest about your love interest, and your intentions. Fold the letter with the written word, placing it under a red 7 day candle. Let the candle burn for the 7 days. Play love music that puts you in an erotic mood and songs with messages of making good love. Take a sensual bath with rose petals, ¼ cup of honey and a tablespoon of cinnamon.

Mix essential oils of cinnamon, rose, ylang ylang, vanilla and/or sandalwood with a any carrier oil. I prefer almond oil because it’s known for it’s sensuality. Massage this sensual oil mixture all over your body. Speak words of self acceptance and kindness. Place the essential oil behind your ears, on your wrist and on your lower abdomen. These oils are known to enhance sensuality, sexuality and attract love. Take a fully charged crystal Rose Quartz egg and place it on your lower abdomen, and meditate. Slowly inhale love, and exhale doubt and fear. Visualize this loving energy all up inside you with every inhale. Visualize this loving energy inside your sweet Yoni, inside sugar walls. Visualize and tell yourself how good, sweet, tight and juicy your succulent pussy is. Say the word “Pussy” and truly turn yourself on! Don’t be shy! There’s no one there but you and the law of the Universe, listening and hearing your affirmation. This energizes, stimulates and activates your womb vibration, and your sacral chakra. This is your body’s central core of sexual energy, self worth, creativity, intuition, and most of all attraction. 

Now, slowly take the Rose Quartz and rub it around your Yoni and PLEASURE YOURSELF! Oooooh! That’s right! SEXUALLY! Rose Quartz energy and vibration resonates self love, forgiveness and strong romantic energy.  Make soft, sensual passionate love to yourself and with yourself, and take that fully charged Rose Quartz egg, and stimulate your clitoris, and rub it around the opening of your soft, sweet, vagina and envision your lover. How he looks, smells, taste, talks and touches you. Speak it out loud, and tell the Universe what you want in a lover. How you want him to enhance your self love, and what you need in him. Don’t forget to include the vision of money. Just the thought of a man with money and self confidence makes me oh, so horny, and SO JUICY! Whew! Now, when you are in a heightened state at your climax simply, STOP! Take your Rose Quartz and move it up to your Heart center and activate your Heart Chakra, while deep breathing. Inhaling in love and self acceptance, and exhaling any fear and self doubt. Call your love spell by name. Speak IT! “Ooh, My Baby, My Lover, My King! Come to me! You are with ME in my spirit. I love you. I AM preparing myself for you. I AM your wife, I AM your lover, I AM your Queen! You are my KING! I surrender to love. Speak to that thing! Speak that thing into existence!

Continue to stimulate your Yoni and stimulate your Heart center as much as you are willing to handle these full bodied beautiful sensations. When you finally release that orgasmic level of love allow its highest vibration fully envelop your entire body. See its colors and electric energy move outward throughout your entire body, and into the Universe. I guarantee after this self loving sexual experience you will just lay there in complete orgasmic surrender, in pleasure, with serenity and peace, and feeling self assured. Feel your afterglow and thank yourself and the Universe for this immersion of sacred, sensual loving light and frequency of the highest good. Give honor and praise to your Goddess power that lives inside your sacred body temple.

Do this everyday the candle is lit, and again whenever you like. You can also set up a love altar and make your love spell more powerful. You can also do this self love ritual to make a love relationship stronger by stating you and your lover’s name, and intent during the love ritual, and infuse more passion into your relationship. Remember, YOU are the magician! No more negative words that go against your love and desire. Speak your LOVE language. Speak to your entitlement, and increase in love, sex, abundance and joy. Continue to speak sweet loving words, and align yourself with love and goodness.

Summons your LOVER and activate your love transmission. I know personally because I did it and it WORKS! I have a personal account about the power of summoning love. Remember, this can NOT be casted prematurely. This can only be casted after you have done self work and healed from past hurts. You must release the residue of past relationships that did not bring you joy. You have to be open, willing and ready to receive love. Your heart must be clear. You must be in a beautiful healing space. Now, when all of these things are aligned, and you feel that deep burning in your soul for your lover the UNIVERSE will comply, and you can begin your love ritual. What you will learn is that your lover is also summoning you. Love always starts with YOU! Conjure LOVE and BE happy!

If you desire to heighten your spirituality, sensuality, sexual energy and attraction you can own your fully love charged Rose Quartz Yoni Egg by contacting me at thehoneydiva@gmail.com or click the link for Goddess Yoni Eggs. Also, Yoni Steaming is a great way to open up the portal of love by becoming self aware of the power of your womb, your femininity, and your Yoni. 

Tracey R. Bryant also known as “The Honey Diva” is a Romance Specialist, a Self Love and Sensual Empowerment Coach, Holistic Sexual Health Consultant, Priestess, Yoni Steam and Kemetic Reiki Practitioner, Womb Wellness, and Sex Educator. She is the owner of Sensual Honey Feminine Wellness – a new feminine and tranquil spa experience. She is also the owner of Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store.” A sensual empowerment boutique that promotes romance, sensual and sexual health and wellness to women and couples. She is the hostess of HoneySoul Radio a Love, Sex and Relationship online radio show. She can be contacted at honeysweetness1@gmail.com

 

Kama Sutra: Sexual Aids & Dildos… WHAT?

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Lovers in ancient times had a responsibility one to another for sexual satisfaction, and lovemaking. In one of the world’s oldest sexual manuals the Kama Sutra, (“Kama” meaning love and desire, and “Sutra” meaning threading) it is said that lovemaking is a sacred duty between a man and a woman. It was taught within the natures of love, and a deep part of the culture, and as a way of life. Unlike what we are taught in today’s society. We are conditioned to feel shame, guilt and insecurity because of our natural sexual progression and sexual desire.

SensualFoodieChaiTeaSpices-1024x622During the 3rd century there was no such thing as an under orgasmic woman. A husband who was unable to satisfy his lover or his wife was to make every effort to remedy the situation. For a man’s inability to satisfy his wife was not part of the culture, and he must make every provision necessary that would either obtain his erection or encourage his wife’s sexual pleasure. Sages, and/or medicine men and women would prepare elixirs and aphrodisiacs with foods, herbs, and spice mixtures. Some consisted of goats milk, fennel, licorice, pumpkin seeds, cinnamon, almonds, honey, and ghee to strengthen the unfortunate man’s man muscle, and stimulate his sexual desire. If these elixirs weren’t bringing about the desired sexual results in a timely manner he was to remedy the sexually unfortunate situation with foreplay, oral sex or an artificial penis. Yes, you heard it right, a DILDO! He was to skillfully use an artificial penis to give sexual pleasure to his wife. This verse gives instruction to an artificial penis to be used to bring women to orgasmic delight and sexual satisfaction.

Gold Vibrator 2“The man who is utterly unable to achieve an erection should pleasure his wife/lover with a phallus crafted from materials like gold, silver, copper, iron, ivory or horn. The artificial phallus should be shaped to your natural proportions. It will be more arousing for the lady if the outside is studded with a profusion of large, smooth nodules” ( Kama Sutra: Part 7, Chapter 1, Sutras 4–8).

Ooooh, it sounds like these studs and nodules was meant for more vaginal stimulation and arousal upon entry and during penetration. Oh my! Who knew? Here we thought we were sexually advanced in the art of sexual novelties and stimulation, and ancient lovers created methods , means and artifacts to keep a woman happy and sexually satisfied in ancient times!

Black IntimacyFor those you who are sexually frustrated because of your belief that using sexual aids is prohibited. Give yourself permission to experience sexual aids, sexual pleasure, and it’s wonderful release with sexual innovation, and intervention. Don’t cheat yourself, treat yourself with a wonderful dong, dildo, and/or vibrator that can make your love life increase in sexual happiness, and orgasmic pleasure. Men love your woman enough to move pass your ego and let her become sexually satisfied until your beautiful man muscle is putting in work at optimal performance. Remember, a happy wife means a happy life!

When creating that intimate rendezvous with your lover Honey Luv has all of your boudoir sexcessories.  Visit our website at  Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store” or contact us at 337.944.9131 Like us on Facebook  and follow us on Twitter @TheHoneyDiva. For your sensual soul listen to our radio show on Tuesday evenings at 9 pm CST on HoneySoul Radio on Blog Talk Radio.  Remember to “Live in the sensual and LOVE in the Delicious.”

The Honey Diva

Women’s History Month: Where’s Your Orgasm Black Women?

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With the celebration of Women’s History this month we can’t forget the impact it had on the “Sexual Revolution.” It was a movement that gave voice to women’s sexual pleasure. She was no longer just a mere tool for men, and their need for sexual release and pleasure. She became sexually liberated! She took off those binding undergarments, and began a social movement that challenged traditional codes of behavior related to sexuality and interpersonal relationships throughout the Western world from the 1960s to the 1980s. Sexual liberation included increased acceptance of sex outside of traditional heterosexual, monogamous relationships, and premarital sex. It gave emphasis on women’s self pleasure, body acceptance, contraception, erotic fantasy, and orgasm. YES, I said it ORGASM! It also gave birth to feminism.

Many black women joined the Feminist Movement in search of equality. However, white women and black women’s fight for freedom and equality were very different in respects that white woman were looking to become liberated from her subjugation under her husband, from being white men’s property. It was true we had the same oppressor but, we had very different agendas. Black women desired liberation for herself, her husband, father, sons, daughters, mothers, and community. It wasn’t just about us, black women! We had children, and families. We had pretty black babies who were also developing under social, racial, and economic oppression. We had husbands who were just as much oppressed if not more, under this same order of oppression. Our issue was more about racial equality, educational access, and economic opportunity. We had a WHOOOOOLE lot more fish to fry!

It was about so much more than sexual independence, and pulling off our bras in the street. Many black women left the Feminist Movement and created their own independent Black Feminist movement, and theory that dealt with the issues of black women, race, family, cultural, economic and social conditions. Black Feminist needed to be a firm and viable voice for and within the Black Power movement. This created another challenge for black women. Many were not taken seriously in the Black Power movement due to the conditions in which male domination over women was well saturated in the fabric of American society, and within Black Culture. Black women were left finding her place and her voice, and this was a big addition to our strain within our Black Love relationships.

However, the order of male rule over women in general took shape many moons before slavery. It began in the 4th century  when Roman Emperor Constantine destroyed the Goddess Temples, and the worship of Black Goddesses, and replaced them with White Male Gods and the religion of Christianity. This was the era of doing away with the Feminine Principle, Goddess honor, and worship and the Matriarchal order.  It was replaced with the implementation of the European colonial rule, patriarchal order, government, white male privilege and ideology, and it was circulated throughout the globe.

Black women and white women may have the same oppressor but clearly we had two different fights. In the words of Mama Zogbe, “Before there was a war on Women's Powerrace there was a war on sex, their was a war against the feminine principle, and the Black Goddess.”

Not only were black women fighting for the rights of the family and community we were fighting for the right to be taking seriously within Western culture and society.

Many black women feel we shouldn’t be looked at or viewed as erotic or as sexual symbols in society. But, how else do you expect the Mother of Civilization to be viewed? Sexual energy is the generated driving force and life force of all existence. Because we are the first mothers of civilization, Black women are the driving force of this sexual nature. Yes, it’s a sad thing that this natural admiration has been denigrated to a form of mere lust, and tainted sexual psychology, however it can’t be denied. 

During my experiences as a sex worker. Many white men I have encountered subconsciously knew black women are the First Mothers. These men desired to be sexually dominated, often times through humiliation and painful measures of fulfillment, bowing into submission as they confessed their sins, negative and abusive behavior toward black women while honoring, praising and calling us Goddess, Queen, and Mother of the Universe. At the time I looked at this as some freaky fetish that I was providing for my clients. But, years later as I began to study women’s history, I now view it as an attempt for white men to redeem themselves of their past and current transgressions, and generational iniquity. Yeah, I know a trip, right? My life and stories as a former sex worker are many, and adventurous. It was amazing and I had a blast! *wink*

Now, this brings me to ask, “Where is your orgasm Black women? Yes, we know It wasn’t our agenda to fight for sexual liberation over our racial freedom and equality. But, now many of us have continued to do the same things that many of our fighting foremothers did, put ourselves on the back burning for our children, husbands, and families while everything, and everyone we profess that we love grows, and progresses around us. As the saying goes, “If Momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy!” I’m a firm believer of that!

Again, I ask you, “Where is YOUR orgasm Black women?” Where is your desire to be ALIVE, smell the roses, enjoy the wine, and eat the cookie DAMN IT!  Where is your desire to LIVE in your PURPOSE, and dream BIG? Have you denied your life and sacrificed, loving sexual experiences, and our amazing pleasure potential, for careers, advancement, and opportunity, while never enjoy the fruits of our labor? If you are having amazing, body shaking, Earth quaking orgasms good for you, continue BE alive, and elevate in joy, happiness, and the will to think and feel at one with everything in nature. Remain fertile and ABUNDANT.

black-man-kissing-black-womanBlack LOVE exists and it’s FREEDOM is based on our political, social, sexual and economic influence… “When you want to destroy a community and a people. One must destroy their romantic love. ” – Dr. Amos Wilson, “Purpose of Love in Black Female & Male Relationships.” 

Let’s not allow our desire for conscious activism within our families and communities keep us from springing forth in our feminine power, sexual freedom and pleasure. Let’s not sacrifice the intimacy and binding power of sexual pleasure in our relationships to create another kind of oppression that affects our relationships with ourselves, and our lovers. Everything needs balance, and order.

Celebrate Women’s History and re-introduce yourself to pleasure, whether it be self-pleasure or the pleasure of your lover. We are forging out of the mold of being simply the pleasure and domestic property of men. Experience sexual pleasure and liberate your soul. Let FREEDOM ring with some oooh’s and ahhh’s of healthy relationships and orgasm!

Want to know more about Women and Religion? Check out one of my favorite books that started me on the path of the Goddess, “When God Was a Women” by Merlin Stone. Also, need more information concerning the black women as Goddess and Matriarchal order before patriarchal manipulation? Check out Mama Zogbe’s book The Sybils: The Theft of African Prophecy by The Catholic Church.

For more on Black Feminist thoughts and theory check out www.blackfeminists.org and Patricia Hill Collin’s book, “Black Feminist Thought: Knowledge, Consciousness, and the Politics of Empowerment.”

Tracey R. Bryant also known as “The Honey Diva” is a Romance Specialist, a Self Love and Sensual Empowerment Coach, Holistic Sexual Health, Yoni Steam and Kemetic Reiki Practitioner, Womb Wellness, and Sex Educator. She is the owner of Sensual Honey Feminine Wellness – a new feminine and tranquil spa experience. She is also the owner of Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store.” A sensual empowerment boutique that promotes romance, sensual and sexual health and wellness to women and couples. She is the hostess of HoneySoul Radio a Love, Sex and Relationship online radio show. She can be contacted at TheHoneyDiva1@gmail.com

 

 

 

 

Love, Money, Milk and Honey

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I hear so many women say they won’t or don’t want to accept a man’s money, under any circumstance. I have heard them say that they don’t feel right accepting money from a man because they feel as though they are prostituting themselves when they have laid down with him, and he offers to pay a bill, or an expense, or ask her how he may provide for her with something she needs or wants. Some women get offended when a  man states his desire to gift her with anything that holds any monetary value. Women have told me they feel cheap, and they don’t need a man to provide for them. That they can provide for themselves. These are things that make me go, “Hmmm!” I raise an eyebrow or two. “Why do I raise an eyebrow you ask?” Because I also hear these same women complain about there being no good men. 

I don’t care what anyone says a man having money is super sexy! Knowing how to double it up and triple stack it is such a major turn on. Being broke isn’t pretty or attractive at anytime. In order for our union to be successful, expand and grow we have to be willing to receive. 

We attract what we think and what we feel. If we think and feel there are no good men, that is what we will attract. We will attract cheap, insensitive, self-centered men, who can give a rat’s ass if we eat, if we keep our your lights on, have gas in our car, if our car note is paid, if we get to work or not, or make it to class on time, if we need toilet paper, or if we have pampered ourselves lately, and if we are feeling comfortable or not. I could go on and on. However, I personally have no problem sharing my time, space and energy with a man who loves to provide for me. A man who feels I am deserving of his money. These qualities get me all hot and bothered. He has found one very important way to stimulate my succulent center. I am full of sexual energy, and ready to reward him with all my moist, juicy goodness.

man-giving-woman-money 1A man sharing his money to honor what he feels, and who he believes to be a deserving woman is a man not only sharing his money but his wealth. I’m not just speaking of monetary wealth. I’m talking about his view of who you are in connection to his wealth, to his assets, his substance and his self-worth. It’s much deeper than the surface of what we think money represents. It has to do with his mentality, and his state of mind about what he feels he deserves when it comes to you, and what he feels you deserve when it comes to him. He has included you in his wealthy place. A real man knows that when his woman is happy she will be at her greatest potential. At her greatest potential she will inspire him and give him what he needs to develop, grow and expand. A man who is willing to share his money with you is a man who is honoring his manhood in connection to who you are as a woman, who you are as a nurturer, and your feminine ability to bring out the best in him, how you influence, and inspire him, how you make him feel when he is with you, and even how your energy makes him feel when you’re not with him. He is ultimately honoring you.

Let’s be clear! This inspiration that I speak of is stimulated through SEX! Yes, ladies I know what many of you are thinking,  “Sex and money is not something that should be exchanged. There isn’t any amount of money that equates to my pussy. It’s priceless!”

I agree! My love and my body are priceless and no amount of money can match it’s worth. This is why when a man has a serious thing for YOU he will continuously share his money, and his wealth in a variety of ways over and again. Because in his spirit that man knows he is honoring you through his worth, and a man’s worth is connected to his wallet, and his means of providing, and proving his affections. Men want SEX, support, love, encouragement and reassurance, and most of the time in that order. We have been misinformed about sex and money. “Sex is the GREAT motivator. Men will move mountains.” Quote me as saying that. It’s Yin and Yang. Male and Female. It’s Universal Law, Cosmic Order and Divine Principle. What we know to be Sacred Masculine energy releases, gives out and is action oriented, with a desire to manifest, and produce. Divine Feminine energy receives, absorbs, nurtures, develops and nourishes with a desire to multiply, and increase in and of itself, giving birth whether that be an idea, a vision, a child or our man. Yes, Ladies we are constantly using our feminine energy to rebirth our men.

man giving a woman a giftThe #1 thing we women want is SECURITY. “Security equals money.” Think about it! We want to know that we don’t have to worry about the eviction or foreclosure notice being stuck on the door next month, or that our home and place of refuge, or our comfort is being threatened.  As women most of us need to feel secure to engage in sex with a man, especially if we are contemplating having a relationship. Security brings comfort, and security and comfort brings about more sex. More great sex! When you are happy and secure you desire to have sex all the time. We stay hot and ready! Security and comfort enhances romance, happiness and pleasure. We create and experience BOMB orgasms when we feel secure. Rather it’s financial, emotional, or mental. Security equates stability. We need are men to be stable. Men need sex to thrive. . 

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A man without money can’t support his role in providing, protecting nor securing his position as THE MAN, and we can’t expect him to contribute his part if we won’t accept his money. A Real Man desires to give, and provide for the woman he professes he loves, and if he doesn’t have it he’s thinking of a means of getting it, because she is his inspiration. Just think about how happy the two of you are when you are not stressing about money issues? Ladies, don’t ever become so independent that you won’t allow a man to provide, or do for you. Even if you do have it for yourself, allow him his rightful place in being a MAN. Allow him the room to do what he is born to do. Ladies, a real man wants to spoil YOU!  Accept him in all of his generosity. Let him play his position. We can eliminate many bad, drama filled relationships if we step our game up,  increase our self worth and recognize our pussy potential. 

I feel there is no bigger turn OFF then a man having money and not releasing it, especially if he desires to release his semen all inside my hot sugar walls. I would certainly play myself small if I were to do without, and Mister is enjoying all of my creamy essence while depositing his DNA.  As the saying goes, “No romance without finance.” This is true. There is nothing good that’s going to come out of any relationship between a man and a woman if he is not responsible for his portion of the supervision. 

When it’s all said and done we can LOVE his dirty drawers, but love doesn’t keep the lights on. Love and money are a great combination. Love, SEX and money now that’s the ULTIMATE collabo! Anything is possible and can be done when in love, while enjoying the binding commitment of two souls experiencing orgasm, and working from a space of abundance. The KINGDOM & QUEENDOM of Heaven is at hand. Balance is key. Without money, there’s no milk and honey. Ladies, let him adore you. 

Want more of this “Love, Sex and Money” wisdom listen to HoneySoul Radio “Sex Love & Prosperity” with Rev. Goddess Charmaine. We discuss Sexual Energy Flow, Abundance, Prosperity, Sexual Transmutation, Wealth, and how to change our limited thinking about money. ~ The Honey Diva 

Tracey R. Bryant also known as “The Honey Diva” is a Romance Specialist, a Self Love and Sensual Empowerment Coach, Holistic Sexual Health, Yoni Steam and Kemetic Reiki Practitioner, Womb Wellness, and Sex Educator. She is the owner of Sensual Honey Feminine Wellness – a new feminine and tranquil spa experience. She is also the owner of Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store.” A sensual empowerment boutique that promotes romance, sensual and sexual health and wellness to women and couples. She is the hostess of HoneySoul Radio a Love, Sex and Relationship online radio show. She can be contacted at honeysweetness1@gmail.com

Know Thyself: To My Own Self Be True

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I’ve had women come to me and ask, “Aren’t you lonely because you’re not in a relationship?” It puzzles me why people would feel because I’m alone, that I’m lonely. Believe me, I’m far from it. I have relationships on every level with men who are fortifying and stimulating without the partnership, the marriage, or the drama. Many women think because I’m “The Honey Diva” , a sexual empowerment coach, and love connoisseur that assist women on how to create and increase their sexual pleasure that I must have a man; better yet that I must be with a man to solidify, validate and justify my sexual teachings of female pleasure and empowerment. But, truth be told I’m so good at loving me, all of me, loving me up and down, inside and out in every way that I can right now, that I’m the only one that can do it this good. I’m in love with the exploration of ME. I learned a while ago that the average relationship isn’t for me. It’s not always an easy task to meet a man who is secure enough within himself to love, and have a relationship with me, especially in my line of work. It takes a man who knows his power, and potential and is self aware in his masculinity, as well as his femininity to understand my passion and purpose. Some may be able to tolerate it, but only for a while before he demands I change.

Some men find my sexuality, freedom, empowerment, and my voice very sexy, and supportive to their image and their ego’s however I’ve been told by a few that I’m too intense, and too sophisticated. If I was seeking validation that would have made me feel inadequate. But, my self worth won’t allow it. However, every woman loves the acceptance of a man. His sacred masculine energy brings us balance and supports our feminine nature, and our roles as women. We do depend on them for this support and encouragement.

It’s my passion to assist women in recognizing and developing their self worth, and being more than enough, and loving ourselves holistically; mind, body and soul, and it’s the very thing that some of my Sista’s use against me. Some women suspect because I’m not married, or in a committed relationship I’m not worthy to teach about the sexual arts, or how to enhance your relationship. However, the first thing that enhances any love relationship is self love. You have to have some to give some, and to get some in return.  My work is to assist women in enhancing self love, sexual pleasure and to identify, awaken and restore your personal power, sexual magnetism, and to recognize your pussy potential.  I’ve experienced intimate conversations with some very beautiful, prestigious, scholarly men who speak highly of the feminine energy and it’s Universal principle, tantra and sexual healing.  As free, and charming as some of these men are the cultural and social view of how men are conditioned to perceive women as sexual objects, versus sexual beings, and inferior to masculine energy is still very pervasive within their psyche, beliefs, values and characteristics. 

Out of frustration I’ve asked myself, “Why does my being alone, and not in a committed relationship, or in a marriage constitutes that I’m lonely, and what does that belief say about us as women when we think that way of one another? I’m supposed to be desperate because I don’t choose to be in a relationship that doesn’t nourish and fortify my essence, or my soul, just for the sake of saying I’m not alone, and “I have a man?”

That’s some old Betty Wright type shit! “A piece of man is better than no man at all.” No disrespect to “Betty Wright” or the Blues. We can learn a lot from the Blues. 

All that is superficial, and on the surface. It’s societies way of dictating to women that we are not normal if we aren’t in a committed relationship. I have to ask myself, “How committed is it if I’m not living and loving to my FULLEST feminine potential with a masculine partner that doesn’t inspire this elevation?” That means I’m no longer true to myself. I’ve come to the conclusion that I may not be the marrying type, at least not in the ways and the laws of this land.

I’ve discovered that most marriages start out in love, and then become about possession, obligation, and the ownership of the person, including their thoughts, actions and deeds. I don’t desire to have a man that I’m loving organically and holistically with my mind, body and soul as my mere possession, and vice versa. I desire something that transcends gravity and elevates beyond the 3rd dimension. I desire vulnerability, integrity, movement, sexual intensity, frequency, progression, elevation, expansion, spirituality, prosperity and surrender. Most people aren’t working on that level of manifesting LOVE, performance and companionship. I am self aware, not to be confused with being self absorbed. I know and recognize that I AM feminine energy personified, in physical form. I am fertile, creative, attractive and ever abundant. I am POWERFUL and I am the most magnetic energy on the planet and in the Universe. Why would I settle for anything less than who I am?

I LOVE men. Oooh, I love my Brotha’s. They are sexy, beautiful, smart, funny, loving, strong, protective, and that masculine swagger is oh, so fine! I love my natural ability to influence, build, entice, feed and draw them to me. That makes him ever so sexy and even more beautiful. However, in sharing myself with him I won’t reduce myself nor my desire of fulfillment, or lower my voice, nor will I cool off my pussy. My pussy is HOT, juicy, soft, wet, supple and ravenous and her dexterity needs and wants what it wants! I am the whole package, and I’m working on my issues. I’m constantly improving. So, yes I deserve the same and more. My dear Sista you do too!

Take your time of solitude to work on loving you, and becoming fully self aware, working through your issues of past hurts, and releasing old relationship wounds. Yes, ladies this means self pleasure – masturbate. Know what it is you desire physically, emotionally, spiritually and sexually. Romance your DAMN self! This is the only way you are going to get acquainted with you. If you look at yourself as lonely because you don’t have a mate that’s a sign of desperation, and men who prey on lonely women can smell it from a mile away. As you grow in your self awareness, and begin romancing and having a love affair with yourself your standards will increase, and the drama will cease. You will begin to attract a different quality of men. Men who want to provide, and protect you. Men who will profess their love to you and for you.

When we connect I will know him because I will transform into a new level of me, with him. I will be the yin to his yang, the fire to his ice, his inspiration to his thought, his Bonnie to his Clyde, the vision to his provision. I will be all encompassing WOMAN, and through this compliment and sacred balance I will be a better, more loving, and passionate feminine sexual being, discovering more of me in this extension of love. Yes, I’m sophisticated, intense, soft, bold, voluptuous, intelligent, knowledgeable, loving, sensual, compassionate and sharp. However, I am far from being alone especially when I know exactly what it is I deserve. Now, chew on that for a minute and tell me how it taste. “Know Thyself!”  To your own self  BE true.

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The Honey Diva