Body Shame, Womb Guilt, and The Antidote…Sexual Healing!

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Let’s just get right to the matter at hand. I want to discuss “SHAME.” Shame is so clever it will creep in and destroy love, and all healthy and positive relationships. It will alter the relationship with yourself. It will keep us from self love on so many levels. It will play on our self image and we will begin to project shameful emotions within our self esteem. Shame is a painful emotion that is caused by guilt. We do our best to hide it with EGO. It keeps us in fear. It sabotages our ability in learning our true nature and our essence, in our radiance and beautiful light. Shame keeps us from recognizing our highest good, and our GOD and GODDESS expression.

My first area of shame is body shame. I’ve been replaying the memory of childhood messages over in my mind for all of 40 + years. I’m just now getting to the core of this negative conditioning brought on by negative childhood messages. These messages replay in my head often like noisy chatter. Just when I begin to feel good about myself these voices come and remind me of who I was told I was by family and so-called friends. I was too fat. My thighs were too thick. My lips were too big. My butt was too much.

Then there is the social and cultural conditioning placed on most of us induced by christian religious beliefs. The so-called first woman named Eve was the downfall of man, and all humankind, and brought on pangs of deception, and evil upon the whole planet, by choosing to eat the fruit from the tree of knowledge. When I think back on the story I can’t help but think, Eve must of been one POWERFUL Chick to have the ability to do all of that with just one bite. DAMN! That’s some amazing shit, but to circulate that type of creation story filled with guilt, shame and sorrow and pass this sexist information down throughout generations of women to women, and womb to womb is a device of propaganda that has been used to control female sexuality, and induces psychic trauma known as misogyny against ourselves, as well as generational womb trauma. I speak of the womb being all inclusive of the vagina, the Yoni, also known as our pussies! Can I get an Amen, or yet an AWOMAN!

We were taught to be shameful of our vagina’s. They are believed to be smelly, ugly, and hairy. Many of our Mother’s have been conditioned to believe the same things about their wondrous vulvas, and have taught us the same beliefs, many times not in words, but through her behavior of how she carries herself, and quietly spoke about her vagina. If she ever spoke about her vagina at all. Many men also believe this and speak it openly, but yet they can’t seem to stay away from our delicious piece of so-called ugly, hairy, smelly, juicy, soft, tight, supple, expandable, and succulent goodness. Yeah, call it what you want. We got POWER!

We are taught to be shameful of our healthy bleeding times. These times are in rhythm with the moon phases, and most needed in procreation, and childbirth in leaving ancestral legacy, and descendants. The blood is so HOLY it’s needed to infuse spirit into matter. It’s needed for spirit travel, and human experience, and again we are taught shame surrounding this magical, moon time experience.  I must say if it wasn’t for the divine design of the womb, and her natural bleeding times we wouldn’t have the ability to reproduce. Once again WE are some POWERFUL Chicks! Can I get a Heaven’s YES!

When I really sat down and probed myself about all of my shame, I realized that most everyone I knew had been lied to about who they truly are, women especially, and we women are wounded, and it became clearer that I was a victim of someone else’s cultural and social conditioning, negative noise, and shameful messaging. So, now the question is how do I get rid of this bullshit, this body shame? How do I work through sexual abuse and molestation? How do I work through not feeling guilty during intimacy and sexual fulfillment? How do I feel comfortable taking off all my clothes in front of my man, my lover, my King while keeping the lights on? I know many of you are reading this and saying, or have said the same thing. Now, the main thing is, “How did I do it?” Let’s just say I’m still in transition, and it’s a process, and I have beautiful people in my life that support my healing.

I took a BIG leap! Oh, I mean a BIG ONE! Whew! I did what we women fear to do, and most of us won’t do! I shared my body shame, my fear and insecurities. I shared my sexual molestation, and any other memory I could think of that sabotaged my healthy self image. I shared this with my King. I EXPOSED my fear! I used the wisdom of vulnerability, and truth to combat this wicked demon. I told him before the first lay me down…”Look, I’m not a size 2, or a size 7. I’m a BIG hammer. A size 16/18 on a good day. I have stretch marks, tattoos, bullet wounds, and a c-section scar. My ass is forever smiling because of the dimples, and I have an issue with my stomach because of my c-section scar. I have 4 children and 2 baby daddies, and they haven’t left my belly. It bothers me! My womb area is my biggest body insecurity. My body cringes with just the thought of you touching it! Can you love me?”

I came straight, no chaser!

When the initial lay down happened he loved me so natural, so strong, and so good his touch made me feel comfortable. Some what anyway! We are talking about 40+ years of conditioning here! It wasn’t going away by one good night of passionate, bomb ass love making! I had work to do!

Months later my King continued to make passionate love to me, and my body. My trust for him, his intentions and his love for me, and US increased. Now, I got real BOLD! I think I must have been possessed…REALLY! I asked him one day, “Baby, you know my body insecurities is my stomach, my lower belly, my c-section scar. You know I have issues with my weight. Baby, I need to heal me from this body shame. I need you to touch, kiss, caress my stomach, my belly scar, my stretch marks, my womb area. I need you to make love to this area, and I need you to allow me to cringe, get tense, release my tears and go through my emotions of fear. I trust you to help heal me from this lie. Please baby! Will you help me heal? At that moment I no longer wanted to run. I exposed myself, and my insecurities. It was the most incredible and loving experience unto myself. I want every woman to experience it! Let me add some Queenly advice. You know when you are in a relationship with your DIVINE compliment when he can agree to make love to you, and your body shame, your fears and your insecurities, and make you feel BEAUTIFUL. Let’s just say I felt like a runway model without an eating disorder. Yes, I’m plus size girl living a Queen size life, flaws and all!

I came to the realization that I’ve always been a big, thick girl give or take a few sizes. My weight has always fluctuated. I’ve been on every diet and diet scam known to woman. I’ve battled with serious depression trying to be something I’m not, and will never be, and that’s skinny. I’ve become more confident with my proportions and learned to love my BIG, sexy self, and I know how to flaunt it well. I’ve had men approach me who have admitted to never want or desire a big girl, but found my big FINE ass simply IRRESISTIBLE!  What I’ve learned is that true beauty is not determined by my dress size, but by the size of my heart, the curve of my smile, and the content of my character. My beauty is examined by how well I wear my confidence. Confidence is what attracts the right man, and I have a whole lot of it. For my big, thick and fine Sistas who are insecure, and are experiencing body shame based on your size, and tripping over your body image here’s a bit of advice. If his man muscle gets erect, and stays hard while you’re butt, ass naked, Hunny you have nothing to worry about. Let that man stimulate your body, arouse your desire, and touch and kiss you in places that make you feel uncomfortable. Yes, I said uncomfortable! Get over your fear of what you think of your body. Let that man MAKE LOVE to every inch of you! Release that body shame and hate, and let go. ENJOY IT! ENJOY YOU! Whether you’re a size 2 or a size 22 you deserve GOOD LOVE! Besides when you lay down all 250 lbs of you turns into sweet, juicy, succulent, tight, wet, soft, gushy, goodness. Ask him! He’ll tell you. If he hasn’t told you already. Skip the diet and just get healthy in your mind, body and soul. Release the world’s version of who you are supposed to be. Love yourself NOW, and believe me the rest will follow. Allow trust, vulnerability, and sexual healing to work it’s magic and continue to heal. Besides it feels so GOOD, Goddess! 

Tracey R. Bryant also known as “The Honey Diva” is a Romance Specialist, a Self Love and Sensual Empowerment Coach, Holistic Sexual Health Consultant, Priestess, Yoni Steam and Kemetic Reiki Practitioner, Womb Wellness, and Sex Educator. She is the owner of Sensual Honey Feminine Wellness – a new feminine and tranquil spa experience. She is also the owner of Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store.” A sensual empowerment boutique that promotes romance, sensual and sexual health and wellness to women and couples. She is the hostess of HoneySoul Radio a Love, Sex and Relationship online radio show. She can be contacted at thehoneydiva1@gmail.com

 

FREE YOURSELF: Release and Renew

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<p>The fall equinox is HERE! The steamy hot days of the summer sun are soon behind us. Let what we have outgrown fall from our lives like autumn leaves. As this new cycle begins. Let’s be reborn. Create fertile ground as we prepare for a FULL harvest. Let’s FREE ourselves from emotional toxins and negative energy that has made some of us stale.</p>
<p>I love to radiate and use the color orange when I’m releasing and invoking FREEDOM from unwanted, old, and outdated feelings of disappointment. Orange is a warm, invigorating and inviting color. It is both physically and mentally stimulating, The color psychology of orange is optimistic and uplifting. Orange actually represents the fall season. It rejuvenates our spirit and is associated with our Sacral Chakra. It deals with our creativity, sexuality, relationships and pleasure. The color orange also offers emotional strength in difficult times. It helps us to bounce back from disappointments, grief and despair. It helps us to move on. When you need to release old baggage from a relationship, burn an orange candle, use a bergamot essential oil in your bath, and place a dab on your heart, and in the center of your third eye, in between your brows. Use and wear healing crystal energy such as Carnelian, Moonstone or Orange Calcite. Remember, to always declare what it is you want to be released from, and FREE yourself from unworthy past experiences.</p>
<p>Give away that dress that reminds you of a unhappy time, experience or a bad relationship. Toss that picture of a friend that constantly puts you down, and never has anything nice to say. Get rid of your ex’s old clothes and shoes, that you’ve stored in the garage, or the back of the closet. Get rid of that stagnant energy and make room for active, new, thriving and vigorous relationships, that bring a beautiful bounty of growth and goodness. It’s a time for RELEASE and RENEWAL. </p>
<p>Autumn is the season to let go of all things that are not in TRUTH or in line with your happiness. I repeat…“YOUR HAPPINESS!” OWN it, LOVE it, and LIVE it, and let it GO! You will LOVE you for it. ~ The Honey Diva

The fall equinox is HERE! The steamy hot days of the summer sun are soon behind us. Let what we have outgrown fall from our lives like autumn leaves. RELEASE, as this new cycle begins. Let’s be reborn. Create fertile ground as we prepare for a FULL harvest. Let’s FREE ourselves from emotional toxins and negative energy that has made some of us stale.

I love to radiate and use the color orange when I’m releasing and invoking FREEDOM from unwanted, old, and outdated feelings of disappointment. Orange is a warm, invigorating and inviting color. It is both physically and mentally stimulating, The color psychology of orange is optimistic and uplifting. Orange actually represents the fall season. It rejuvenates our spirit and is associated with our Sacral Chakra. It deals with our creativity, sexuality, relationships and pleasure. The color orange also offers emotional strength in difficult times. It helps us to bounce back from disappointments, grief and despair. It helps us to move on. When you need to release old baggage from a relationship, burn an orange candle, use a bergamot essential oil in your bath, and place a dab on your heart, and in the center of your third eye, in between your brows. Use and wear healing crystal energy such as Carnelian, Moonstone or Orange Calcite. Remember, to always declare what it is you want to be released from, and FREE yourself from unworthy past experiences.

Give away that dress that reminds you of a unhappy time, experience or a bad relationship. Toss that picture of that so called friend that constantly puts you down, and never has anything nice to say. Get rid of your ex’s old clothes and shoes, that you’ve stored in the garage, or in the back of the closet. You know he’s last years news and blues. Get rid of his energy! Get rid of that stagnant energy and make room for active, new, thriving and vigorous relationships, that bring a beautiful bounty of growth and goodness. It’s a time for RELEASE and RENEWAL and a NEW HARVEST.

Autumn is the season to let go of all things that are not in TRUTH or in line with your happiness. I repeat…“YOUR HAPPINESS!” OWN it, LOVE it, and LIVE it, and let it GO! You will LOVE you for it.

Tracey R. Bryant also known as “The Honey Diva” is a Romance Specialist, a Self Love and Sensual Empowerment Coach, Holistic Sexual Health Consultant, Priestess, Yoni Steam and Kemetic Reiki Practitioner, Womb Wellness, and Sex Educator. She is the owner of Sensual Honey Feminine Wellness – a new feminine and tranquil spa experience. She is also the owner of Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store.” A sensual empowerment boutique that promotes romance, sensual and sexual health and wellness to women and couples. She is the hostess of HoneySoul Radio a Love, Sex and Relationship online radio show. She can be contacted at thehoneydiva1@gmail.com

 

 

SELF LOVE & SEX MAGIC: GETTING THE LOVE YOU WANT

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You can create the love and sex you desire by pleasing yourself first. When you are loving yourself in any capacity you are telling the Universe you deserve it. You are activating your value. Combine the power, and sound vibration of words and you are the Creatress of your life. Words are spells! Word fusion and their relationship with desire, ritual, and visualization, gives you the power to set your desires in motion. You can spring forth energy, and vibrate your desire into the atmosphere. You can keep your love light burning with a self love ritual that can bring your desire, passion, confidence, self image and attraction to the next level.

Speak sweet, loving, and sexy words to yourself. Start with I AM. Anytime you start a sentence with I AM you creating what you are, and what you want to BE. Write a love note to your desired lover, and be descriptive, and honest about your love interest, and your intentions. Fold the letter with the written word, placing it under a red 7 day candle. Let the candle burn for the 7 days. Play love music that puts you in an erotic mood and songs with messages of making good love. Take a sensual bath with rose petals, ¼ cup of honey and a tablespoon of cinnamon.

Mix essential oils of cinnamon, rose, ylang ylang, vanilla and/or sandalwood with a any carrier oil. I prefer almond oil because it’s known for it’s sensuality. Massage this sensual oil mixture all over your body. Speak words of self acceptance and kindness. Place the essential oil behind your ears, on your wrist and on your lower abdomen. These oils are known to enhance sensuality, sexuality and attract love. Take a fully charged crystal Rose Quartz egg and place it on your lower abdomen, and meditate. Slowly inhale love, and exhale doubt and fear. Visualize this loving energy all up inside you with every inhale. Visualize this loving energy inside your sweet Yoni, inside sugar walls. Visualize and tell yourself how good, sweet, tight and juicy your succulent pussy is. Say the word “Pussy” and truly turn yourself on! Don’t be shy! There’s no one there but you and the law of the Universe, listening and hearing your affirmation. This energizes, stimulates and activates your womb vibration, and your sacral chakra. This is your body’s central core of sexual energy, self worth, creativity, intuition, and most of all attraction. 

Now, slowly take the Rose Quartz and rub it around your Yoni and PLEASURE YOURSELF! Oooooh! That’s right! SEXUALLY! Rose Quartz energy and vibration resonates self love, forgiveness and strong romantic energy.  Make soft, sensual passionate love to yourself and with yourself, and take that fully charged Rose Quartz egg, and stimulate your clitoris, and rub it around the opening of your soft, sweet, vagina and envision your lover. How he looks, smells, taste, talks and touches you. Speak it out loud, and tell the Universe what you want in a lover. How you want him to enhance your self love, and what you need in him. Don’t forget to include the vision of money. Just the thought of a man with money and self confidence makes me oh, so horny, and SO JUICY! Whew! Now, when you are in a heightened state at your climax simply, STOP! Take your Rose Quartz and move it up to your Heart center and activate your Heart Chakra, while deep breathing. Inhaling in love and self acceptance, and exhaling any fear and self doubt. Call your love spell by name. Speak IT! “Ooh, My Baby, My Lover, My King! Come to me! You are with ME in my spirit. I love you. I AM preparing myself for you. I AM your wife, I AM your lover, I AM your Queen! You are my KING! I surrender to love. Speak to that thing! Speak that thing into existence!

Continue to stimulate your Yoni and stimulate your Heart center as much as you are willing to handle these full bodied beautiful sensations. When you finally release that orgasmic level of love allow its highest vibration fully envelop your entire body. See its colors and electric energy move outward throughout your entire body, and into the Universe. I guarantee after this self loving sexual experience you will just lay there in complete orgasmic surrender, in pleasure, with serenity and peace, and feeling self assured. Feel your afterglow and thank yourself and the Universe for this immersion of sacred, sensual loving light and frequency of the highest good. Give honor and praise to your Goddess power that lives inside your sacred body temple.

Do this everyday the candle is lit, and again whenever you like. You can also set up a love altar and make your love spell more powerful. You can also do this self love ritual to make a love relationship stronger by stating you and your lover’s name, and intent during the love ritual, and infuse more passion into your relationship. Remember, YOU are the magician! No more negative words that go against your love and desire. Speak your LOVE language. Speak to your entitlement, and increase in love, sex, abundance and joy. Continue to speak sweet loving words, and align yourself with love and goodness.

Summons your LOVER and activate your love transmission. I know personally because I did it and it WORKS! I have a personal account about the power of summoning love. Remember, this can NOT be casted prematurely. This can only be casted after you have done self work and healed from past hurts. You must release the residue of past relationships that did not bring you joy. You have to be open, willing and ready to receive love. Your heart must be clear. You must be in a beautiful healing space. Now, when all of these things are aligned, and you feel that deep burning in your soul for your lover the UNIVERSE will comply, and you can begin your love ritual. What you will learn is that your lover is also summoning you. Love always starts with YOU! Conjure LOVE and BE happy!

If you desire to heighten your spirituality, sensuality, sexual energy and attraction you can own your fully love charged Rose Quartz Yoni Egg by contacting me at thehoneydiva@gmail.com or click the link for Goddess Yoni Eggs. Also, Yoni Steaming is a great way to open up the portal of love by becoming self aware of the power of your womb, your femininity, and your Yoni. 

Tracey R. Bryant also known as “The Honey Diva” is a Romance Specialist, a Self Love and Sensual Empowerment Coach, Holistic Sexual Health Consultant, Priestess, Yoni Steam and Kemetic Reiki Practitioner, Womb Wellness, and Sex Educator. She is the owner of Sensual Honey Feminine Wellness – a new feminine and tranquil spa experience. She is also the owner of Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store.” A sensual empowerment boutique that promotes romance, sensual and sexual health and wellness to women and couples. She is the hostess of HoneySoul Radio a Love, Sex and Relationship online radio show. She can be contacted at honeysweetness1@gmail.com

 

Kama Sutra: Sexual Aids & Dildos… WHAT?

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Lovers in ancient times had a responsibility one to another for sexual satisfaction, and lovemaking. In one of the world’s oldest sexual manuals the Kama Sutra, (“Kama” meaning love and desire, and “Sutra” meaning threading) it is said that lovemaking is a sacred duty between a man and a woman. It was taught within the natures of love, and a deep part of the culture, and as a way of life. Unlike what we are taught in today’s society. We are conditioned to feel shame, guilt and insecurity because of our natural sexual progression and sexual desire.

SensualFoodieChaiTeaSpices-1024x622During the 3rd century there was no such thing as an under orgasmic woman. A husband who was unable to satisfy his lover or his wife was to make every effort to remedy the situation. For a man’s inability to satisfy his wife was not part of the culture, and he must make every provision necessary that would either obtain his erection or encourage his wife’s sexual pleasure. Sages, and/or medicine men and women would prepare elixirs and aphrodisiacs with foods, herbs, and spice mixtures. Some consisted of goats milk, fennel, licorice, pumpkin seeds, cinnamon, almonds, honey, and ghee to strengthen the unfortunate man’s man muscle, and stimulate his sexual desire. If these elixirs weren’t bringing about the desired sexual results in a timely manner he was to remedy the sexually unfortunate situation with foreplay, oral sex or an artificial penis. Yes, you heard it right, a DILDO! He was to skillfully use an artificial penis to give sexual pleasure to his wife. This verse gives instruction to an artificial penis to be used to bring women to orgasmic delight and sexual satisfaction.

Gold Vibrator 2“The man who is utterly unable to achieve an erection should pleasure his wife/lover with a phallus crafted from materials like gold, silver, copper, iron, ivory or horn. The artificial phallus should be shaped to your natural proportions. It will be more arousing for the lady if the outside is studded with a profusion of large, smooth nodules” ( Kama Sutra: Part 7, Chapter 1, Sutras 4–8).

Ooooh, it sounds like these studs and nodules was meant for more vaginal stimulation and arousal upon entry and during penetration. Oh my! Who knew? Here we thought we were sexually advanced in the art of sexual novelties and stimulation, and ancient lovers created methods , means and artifacts to keep a woman happy and sexually satisfied in ancient times!

Black IntimacyFor those you who are sexually frustrated because of your belief that using sexual aids is prohibited. Give yourself permission to experience sexual aids, sexual pleasure, and it’s wonderful release with sexual innovation, and intervention. Don’t cheat yourself, treat yourself with a wonderful dong, dildo, and/or vibrator that can make your love life increase in sexual happiness, and orgasmic pleasure. Men love your woman enough to move pass your ego and let her become sexually satisfied until your beautiful man muscle is putting in work at optimal performance. Remember, a happy wife means a happy life!

When creating that intimate rendezvous with your lover Honey Luv has all of your boudoir sexcessories.  Visit our website at  Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store” or contact us at 337.944.9131 Like us on Facebook  and follow us on Twitter @TheHoneyDiva. For your sensual soul listen to our radio show on Tuesday evenings at 9 pm CST on HoneySoul Radio on Blog Talk Radio.  Remember to “Live in the sensual and LOVE in the Delicious.”

The Honey Diva

Women’s History Month: Where’s Your Orgasm Black Women?

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With the celebration of Women’s History this month we can’t forget the impact it had on the “Sexual Revolution.” It was a movement that gave voice to women’s sexual pleasure. She was no longer just a mere tool for men, and their need for sexual release and pleasure. She became sexually liberated! She took off those binding undergarments, and began a social movement that challenged traditional codes of behavior related to sexuality and interpersonal relationships throughout the Western world from the 1960s to the 1980s. Sexual liberation included increased acceptance of sex outside of traditional heterosexual, monogamous relationships, and premarital sex. It gave emphasis on women’s self pleasure, body acceptance, contraception, erotic fantasy, and orgasm. YES, I said it ORGASM! It also gave birth to feminism.

Many black women joined the Feminist Movement in search of equality. However, white women and black women’s fight for freedom and equality were very different in respects that white woman were looking to become liberated from her subjugation under her husband, from being white men’s property. It was true we had the same oppressor but, we had very different agendas. Black women desired liberation for herself, her husband, father, sons, daughters, mothers, and community. It wasn’t just about us, black women! We had children, and families. We had pretty black babies who were also developing under social, racial, and economic oppression. We had husbands who were just as much oppressed if not more, under this same order of oppression. Our issue was more about racial equality, educational access, and economic opportunity. We had a WHOOOOOLE lot more fish to fry!

It was about so much more than sexual independence, and pulling off our bras in the street. Many black women left the Feminist Movement and created their own independent Black Feminist movement, and theory that dealt with the issues of black women, race, family, cultural, economic and social conditions. Black Feminist needed to be a firm and viable voice for and within the Black Power movement. This created another challenge for black women. Many were not taken seriously in the Black Power movement due to the conditions in which male domination over women was well saturated in the fabric of American society, and within Black Culture. Black women were left finding her place and her voice, and this was a big addition to our strain within our Black Love relationships.

However, the order of male rule over women in general took shape many moons before slavery. It began in the 4th century  when Roman Emperor Constantine destroyed the Goddess Temples, and the worship of Black Goddesses, and replaced them with White Male Gods and the religion of Christianity. This was the era of doing away with the Feminine Principle, Goddess honor, and worship and the Matriarchal order.  It was replaced with the implementation of the European colonial rule, patriarchal order, government, white male privilege and ideology, and it was circulated throughout the globe.

Black women and white women may have the same oppressor but clearly we had two different fights. In the words of Mama Zogbe, “Before there was a war on Women's Powerrace there was a war on sex, their was a war against the feminine principle, and the Black Goddess.”

Not only were black women fighting for the rights of the family and community we were fighting for the right to be taking seriously within Western culture and society.

Many black women feel we shouldn’t be looked at or viewed as erotic or as sexual symbols in society. But, how else do you expect the Mother of Civilization to be viewed? Sexual energy is the generated driving force and life force of all existence. Because we are the first mothers of civilization, Black women are the driving force of this sexual nature. Yes, it’s a sad thing that this natural admiration has been denigrated to a form of mere lust, and tainted sexual psychology, however it can’t be denied. 

During my experiences as a sex worker. Many white men I have encountered subconsciously knew black women are the First Mothers. These men desired to be sexually dominated, often times through humiliation and painful measures of fulfillment, bowing into submission as they confessed their sins, negative and abusive behavior toward black women while honoring, praising and calling us Goddess, Queen, and Mother of the Universe. At the time I looked at this as some freaky fetish that I was providing for my clients. But, years later as I began to study women’s history, I now view it as an attempt for white men to redeem themselves of their past and current transgressions, and generational iniquity. Yeah, I know a trip, right? My life and stories as a former sex worker are many, and adventurous. It was amazing and I had a blast! *wink*

Now, this brings me to ask, “Where is your orgasm Black women? Yes, we know It wasn’t our agenda to fight for sexual liberation over our racial freedom and equality. But, now many of us have continued to do the same things that many of our fighting foremothers did, put ourselves on the back burning for our children, husbands, and families while everything, and everyone we profess that we love grows, and progresses around us. As the saying goes, “If Momma ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy!” I’m a firm believer of that!

Again, I ask you, “Where is YOUR orgasm Black women?” Where is your desire to be ALIVE, smell the roses, enjoy the wine, and eat the cookie DAMN IT!  Where is your desire to LIVE in your PURPOSE, and dream BIG? Have you denied your life and sacrificed, loving sexual experiences, and our amazing pleasure potential, for careers, advancement, and opportunity, while never enjoy the fruits of our labor? If you are having amazing, body shaking, Earth quaking orgasms good for you, continue BE alive, and elevate in joy, happiness, and the will to think and feel at one with everything in nature. Remain fertile and ABUNDANT.

black-man-kissing-black-womanBlack LOVE exists and it’s FREEDOM is based on our political, social, sexual and economic influence… “When you want to destroy a community and a people. One must destroy their romantic love. ” – Dr. Amos Wilson, “Purpose of Love in Black Female & Male Relationships.” 

Let’s not allow our desire for conscious activism within our families and communities keep us from springing forth in our feminine power, sexual freedom and pleasure. Let’s not sacrifice the intimacy and binding power of sexual pleasure in our relationships to create another kind of oppression that affects our relationships with ourselves, and our lovers. Everything needs balance, and order.

Celebrate Women’s History and re-introduce yourself to pleasure, whether it be self-pleasure or the pleasure of your lover. We are forging out of the mold of being simply the pleasure and domestic property of men. Experience sexual pleasure and liberate your soul. Let FREEDOM ring with some oooh’s and ahhh’s of healthy relationships and orgasm!

Want to know more about Women and Religion? Check out one of my favorite books that started me on the path of the Goddess, “When God Was a Women” by Merlin Stone. Also, need more information concerning the black women as Goddess and Matriarchal order before patriarchal manipulation? Check out Mama Zogbe’s book The Sybils: The Theft of African Prophecy by The Catholic Church.

For more on Black Feminist thoughts and theory check out www.blackfeminists.org and Patricia Hill Collin’s book, “Black Feminist Thought: Knowledge, Consciousness, and the Politics of Empowerment.”

Tracey R. Bryant also known as “The Honey Diva” is a Romance Specialist, a Self Love and Sensual Empowerment Coach, Holistic Sexual Health, Yoni Steam and Kemetic Reiki Practitioner, Womb Wellness, and Sex Educator. She is the owner of Sensual Honey Feminine Wellness – a new feminine and tranquil spa experience. She is also the owner of Honey Luv Lingerie & More “The Romance Store.” A sensual empowerment boutique that promotes romance, sensual and sexual health and wellness to women and couples. She is the hostess of HoneySoul Radio a Love, Sex and Relationship online radio show. She can be contacted at TheHoneyDiva1@gmail.com